What should I do? Serious anawers please.?

2 women in 1 household is 1 too many. Your husband needs to put his wife and marriage FIRST and sister needs to get her own life. You and your husband need to have a serious one-on-one talk - he should respect your needs for ya'll to have your own life as man and wife. Not man and wife and sister!

Your husband needs to step up and put you first. You haven't told us the whole story of her age or why she lives with you which could play a role in actions you could or need to take. Regardless though when a man chooses to get married he is making a commitment to you that you are now the most important thing in his life. He needs to establish rules in your household for his sister and stand up to her when she doesn't stick to them or makes life hard for you. You and him are providing a home for her just like she was your kid and the same rules and structure should exist. If she can't live by those rules and she is old enough to be on her own then she needs to leave.

Sounds like the fault is the guy. Just because you are married doesn't make you subservient to your husband this is 2006 afterall. Put the responsibility on him to pull his head out of his a$$ and stick by his wife. You on the other hand should consider the family ties with your sister. Family is #1, just cause your married, doesn't mean your sister shouldn't be important, she also shouldn't take advantage of the situation. They both may be enjoying playing you. Stand up for yourself, put them both in thier place, and by all means -- make your husband understand his place, and assume your place as the female of the house. Be strong -- he'll understand that better than you allowing yourself to constantly be beat.

-- Yes.. I'm male.

Don't you watch Dr Phil? I understand his sister may need support but she has to go. Sit down. Explain to your husband that is your house. The only two people that count are you and him. If he can't understand that maby you need a new husband. E-mail DR. Phil. He has had numerous shows on this situation. Sister needs to know her place in your house. If she doesn't like it she can use the big hole in the wall call a door and tell her don't let the door knob hit her where the good lord split her

Ok--well ther are many problems here--It was nice of you to take her in ur home to help her out at the beginning---but seems like now she is abusing the help that u are giving her. I suggest you tell ur husband that she needs to leave cuz it is causing problems between u 2. If she doesnt leave the only thing that is gonna happen is make u guys disagree and be unhappy to the point that u guys seperate. Get her out asap!! Good luck!

oh wow! this has got to be hell for you! i understand what you are going through. i had some of the same problems myself. however it was a bit different. i do not know how you feel but i felt that "our" home was being taking over and there was nothing i could say or do about it. in my circumstances my fiances sister is a crack addict and was staying with us because her brother was trying to get her off of drugs. it seemed that she was always causing problems between me and him. you said that your sister in law has a job? why not discuss to your husband that you married him...not her too? talk with your husband and let him know that he is important to you and that you understand that he cares about his sister but tell him he can still care about her when she moves out! you need to quit letting her walk all over you in your own home. and give this sister in law a month or two to find a place of her own.

Please don't put him in the middle between you and his sister. You have two choices here: you can either accept her as a roommate since she has been living with you and your hubby for so long, or you can have a heart to heart and ask your husband to put some effort into your marriage and get your sister-in-law of our your place. It sounds like you've married two people as he is letting her use him as a crutch. Good luck.

it is harder for your husband as he loves you both. is there any chance that you can move out to another place?

can you talk with your sister in law and see what is woring

or just see a family advisor she or he might be help you .

the only thing is just try to be cool do nto blam any one infront of your husband and if you want ot talk of moving out just let him know that you also care for his sister and you think she needs more privacy.

I hope that helps as it is a hard one

Good Luck

u all need to sit down and talk about the situation...first approach ur husband and tell him ur feelings and then if he is total denial leave for the night...tell him that u need to hav eur space becuase u commited to him and not him and his sister...just tell him how u honestly feel..then approach the siter and tell her that u feel u never have any time with ur husband...when she starts complaining about her life don't give her advice complian right back to her...maybe if u ignore her long enough she will get the hint

you and your husband need a heart to heart. YOU ARE HIS WIFE AND SHOULD COME FIRST NEXT TO YOUR KIDS.if he has a problem with this you shouldnt have gotten married. this is a clear sighn that his sister is more important than you. that is a problem. you will probably fight about this but its time for sister to move on. he needs to know your deep down true feelings its the only way to fix any problem