How would you handle this situation?

Loosen-up. If you don't you'll lose your daughter. She's at the age where your relationship is going to turn one way or another...if you can't sit down and tell her why you don't want her in make-up, do you really expect her to come to you for advice about boys, drugs, and sex?

At this age i would allow minimal make-up and monitored "dates" (you taking the two of them to the movies). She needs to know your on her side. I don't know what to think of a 16 year old boy being in the picture (most of the time it's 18+) I would really try to let her make her own choices and mistakes. If you try to forbid something it will usually happen only it will be behind your back. It's easy to want to protect her, but she's going to get her heart broken and ....Be the person she comes to for advice.

13 is plenty old enough to wear earrings, makeup (in moderation), and I assume by nylons you mean pantyhose? My goodness, I was wearing them to church before I was 10! What does she wear with a skirt anyway? All of these are fine and appropriate for a 13-year-old, I think. The least being makeup, and I do stress *in moderation*. I'm sure that when I was 13, I liked to carry around a compact of pressed powder (like all of my friends) and lip gloss, but that was about the extent of it. No heavy mascara or gaudy lipstick.

The boy is a different story, though. I did have my first "boyfriend" at 13, which amounted to holding hands and my first kiss. He was also 13, though, which is MUCH different than a 16-year-old boy, which tend to only be after one thing. If she insists that she neeeeeds a boyfriend, perhaps you could stipulate that they only go out with supervision, never alone in his car, maybe even within a year or so of her own age.

Good luck to you...I'm so not looking forward to my own daughter becoming a teenager!!

You are doing what you believe is the right thing for her.

I have a 13 y/o as well but she is not into the boy scene yet. Thank God. However she is learning the basics of make up but not wearing nylons. She does have piereced ears. Stick to your guns don't cave in, I admire your convictions. As far a 16 y/o boy is concerened I would be woried. I think the boy is trying to add a notch. I don't think a 16 y/o should be dating a 13 y/o. That is my personal oppinion.

well that seriously depends on the situation....the current one I am in I am taking it all in and kicking back in my recliner....so that's how I am handling it....two points please....ok now that you updated your question....I don't have any kids but as a male if I did I am pretty sure I would be a bad father in the sense that I would have to ground a daughter if I had one till she was like 25...as far as make up well I feel the mother should deal with that....I personally would allow it but it would have to be with moderation....meaning they are not going to cake the crap on and look like Tammy Fay Baker...as far as young boys go they only have one thing on their minds so tell her no not a chance...he's 16 she's 13....hell no

Talk to her, know her friends and her whereabouts. Talk to the parents of her friends. Sometimes kids say their friends get to do stuff but, they really don't. Soon you are going to have to be more flexible or she will rebel. I have a daughter that is 17 and she is just now getting out of that stage. Good luck.

Don't believe everything you hear. As far as make-up...maybe a little lip gloss. Panty hose...ok if she wears skirts...16 year old boy....Not until she is sixteen!! You may have to compromise with the little things, talk to her and listen to her. You may find that if you really listen to her side, she will listen to yours too. Good luck

Honestly, let her get out and live a little.

Even if you're not into the dating thing,

makeup should be perfectly acceptable, at least.

Let her figure it out for herself.

Kudos to you Just for asking I know how raising kids can get really stressful.Well not first hand but just be patient with her .she just wants to try at being adult you just have to monitor Everything

I think I would try to reason it out with all parties.

there has to be a balance...maybe make-up((lite)) Minus the boyfriend...Girls will be girls...but you have to let them or they rebel back