Have you had pre-marital counseling?

I had premarital counseling and I HIGHLY recoomend it.

My husband and I went to a counselor from our church. Every week, we would have serious discussions about our future, married life, children, everything. He even gave us questonaires to fill out and return the next week (and my husband and I couldn't see each others answers until the following week, when we read them aloud)

Our counseling really helped us know what we were in for, and helped usa to make sure that we were making the right decision. Yes, it's easy to say "I love this person, I want to marry them." But in one instance of counseling, we were asked to list 15 specific reasons why we loved and wanted to marry each other. It really makes you think, and its a great feeling to see why they want to marry you!

We had a great time with counseling and it helped prepare us for our married life and also let us know that hey, we're both in this for the long haul. I highly recommend it to anyone!

My husband and I had to attend mandatory marriage classes since we wanted to get married in the Catholic church. They were actually very beneficial and only briefly discussed religion and spirituality. We had to answer questionnaires about each other that focused on communication, interests, plans for the future, compatibility, child/parenting views, etc. It forced us to discuss things that we hadn't really talked about in-depth before. I definitely recommend some form of pre-marital counseling.

No, but I do recommend it.

In this day and age, why not find out BEFORE the wedding if you are compatible and if you are going to be able to deal with the ins and outs of the relationship instead of getting married a million times just for it to not work out and then get divorced.

I have had it in the form of "engaged encounters". I would recommend doing something like that even though I didn't pay attention to the signs. My fiancee did not complete the last few sections despite that fact that it was important to me. This played out in our marriage and eventual divorce.

Yes I highly recommend it, if you're actually going to listen to the counselor. I had it, but my friend's father married me. That was a joke.

Nope. I'm capable of making up my own mind, setting down the rules and working out compromises. Pretty simple really....screw me over and I will screw you over. Treat me well and I will treat you well.

No, but would HIGHLY recommend it......especially if you have had previous marriages , children from previous marriages, or serious issues of any kind

Yes and i do suggest it. You will find out things now that you wouldn't for years otherwise. Think about it.

no but i have heard that it only makes things worse

no i haven't had but i feel that one shud go...it does help.