How can I get passed all the stress of planning a wedding?

THINK ABOUT YOUR HAPPINESS AND YOUR BIG DAY. DON'T LET OTHERS DISCOURAGE YOU FROM DOING WHAT YOU WANT FOR YOUR DAY. SIT BOTH SIDES OF THE FAMILY DOWN AND LET THEM KNOW WHAT YOU WANT TO DO AND WHAT YOU AGREE WITH. IF THEY WANT TO PARTICIPATE, THEN LET THEM KNOW HOW IT'S GONA BE. YOUR WAY OR NO WAY. DON'T STRESS YOURSELF OUT OVER NOTHING.WHEN YOU FEEL YOU DOWN JUST LOOK UP AND THANK GOD FOR GIVING YOU DAYS HERE ON EARTH. NOTHINGS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THAT!!! GOOD LUCK GIRL.

Try this mantra: so long as I am married at the end of the day, that is the important thing. Remind family and friends as needed. No wedding is perfect, so don't even expect everything to run smoothly. Content yourself reading other wedding horror stories: falling cakes, candles lighting carpets/hair/dresses/centerpieces on fire, stained outfits, tripping attendents, drunk families, missing flowers, late officiants, flashing friends, sick guests, mismatched silverware, bands playing the wrong song, etc. Decide if you are going to let the wrong color of flowers or flavor of icing make you hate what may be the most important day of your life. No one controls your attitude but you; you may have to remind those panicking about that.

If you are truly stressed, schedule some personal time. Take a long walk by yourself, go swimming, swing on a swingset, go to a movie or concert by yourself, even reading in the bathtub can help you find some space and time to relax. Pamper yourself as much you can afford: full body massage, facial, manicure, pedicure, maybe buy a little something new: fresh flowers, a gift for a loved one, a bracelet you always wanted or decadent food you rarely get. Remember: the wedding is just one day, but the marriage will be a lifetime. :)

just take a step back and think about your big day, all the details are not important, what is important is that you are going to be marrying the man of your dreams.

i'm getting married in a few months and i've started having these dreams where its our wedding day and something is always going wrong... my dress is MIA, my hair has been turned into a disaster rats nest, our location got ruined and we have to get married in some hallway... the one common theme behind all the dreams (on top of something going horribly wrong) is that i'm fine with it and i make the best out of the circumstances and i'm still ecstatic to be marrying the person that makes me happy, no matter what goes wrong on that day.

don't let them get to you, just think about the big picture... it doesn't matter if the napkins aren't the right color, or his mother is pouting because you didn't use lilies of the valley... those aren't the things you'll remember 20 years from now.

ps- congrats! you will have a lovely wedding, despite all the current stress, and the best wishes to you both!

The only thing that matters is what you want. You can't cater to everyone's desires. So, make your decisions and just politely tell both families these are your decisions and you're not going to listen to any bickering or complaining. Remember, this is supposed to be one of the happiest days of YOUR life!! What also works for me, is lighting up and having a beer, it will take away some of the stress and help you relax. :)

Expect that things will go wrong. Do you expect everything in life to go exactly as planned? Anyway, if it ends up raining you could look really sute with matching umbrellas for you and the brides maids. Turn a diaster into fun.

Who cares about the families opinions...its you and your partner that are getting married. Not them. Best not to involve anyone else, because they all want it their way.

Let both families know that this is your day and your day to be happy...tell them to butt out...if they dont like it so be it...it's YOUR wedding...i had to do it and im pretty sure there are other brides that had to...some people just dont understand the meaning of the bride and grooms wedding...not bride groom and family wedding...yeah youre marrying into another family but it's your wedding not theirs!

Well im going to tell you this, this is ur wedding and you make the decisions so have it the way u want it and if they don't like it then who cares bc all that matters is that u like it, and that its the way u want, so just take a deep breath and when ur out with one of them and they start frighting about i don't like this or no that ugly say hey i like it so I'm going to buy it and be done with it, well i hope that i helped u out let me know if i have thankz

Try this approach, I did to help with my sanity, You are getting amrried not your family or any friend, you are, you have to be happy, stop trying to make every one else happy. Everything will be fine and work out, just make yourself happy, and take a day for yourself, go get a massage or a manicure pamper yourself a liitle and forget everyone else!!

10 days! congratulations!

are you marrying the love of your life? soul mate?

then...be happy!!!!!

a wedding is JUST a party. it seems important when you are doing it...but it is JUST a party that happens for JUST a few hours on JUST one day.

at this point there shouldn't be anything left to argue about anyway. man i love, check. date and time, check. church, check. dress, check. family invited, check. food, check. photographer, check.

if your mother in law wants to suddenly have birdseed to throw at you guys and your mother wants rice...tell them both to go do their thing. it makes them happy and you won't care about it in 5 years....you really won't.

don't let other people get you down on your wedding...just go...have fun...and let the party roll.

hire a wedding planner. or better yet, ask everyone for a hand, give them something specific to accomplish.

No matter what, you will be stressed about your wedding. Its just delegating authority to others to help that will help reduce that stress. Just make sure that you keep an eye on whats you've delegated to others to do, just to make sure it gets done. Ask for updates etc.....GL;)