Do Gay Guru's Exist?

There is always a gay community lurking somewhere, even in the most repressed backwater area of the world. My first suggestion would be to go internet hunting. Go to Gay.com and look for your area in the chat section, and just start talking to people. Though be forewarned a lot of those guys can be just totally obnoxious. You'd probably be surprised to find something in your area.

Another place to look would be in the "gay guides." The Damron company makes gay travel guides, and there may be one for an area very close to where you live. Just check on Amazon.

As for mentorship, unfortunately that's not something that our community is very big on. Usually at colleges and universities you'll have a gay student alliance. You may also have a local gay community center somewhere nearby. You can usually call there and talk to someone very friendly who can help you with your questions.

And no 24 is not too old to learn. I have friends who never came out until they were in their 40s.

I wish you lots of luck.

No 24 is not too old to learn. I have a friend that is 37 and is just now entering the gay community and he seems to be doing just fine.

I've never heard of a 'gay guru', but usually if you make some gay friends that are familiar with the community, gayday, scenes, and tips on coming onto other guys.

Most people get past being shy eventually. I used to be very shy growing up, but that has changed a lot. I'm not even really sure why it changed or what happened. Perhaps it was the company I kept that was somewhat adventurous and spontaneous, etc. Not sure.

Although I've met guys that are really attracted to shy guys and enjoy coming onto them.....so you may not have to get rid of being shy at all. Of course, you just have to wait for those guys to come on to you, though.

I'm not gay so can't help you with the rest of your question. But a self proclaimed 'guru' is someone who wrongfully believes they can lead others to the truth they have found. Truth is only found within, and if the 'gurus' were truly 'enlightened' they would know this. An attachment to egoic power can disguise itself as anything, including spiritual guruship. We need no middle man in knowing God. Anyone who tell you differently is still in the egos clutches. And that includes gay gurus. :-)

When I was first coming out (in November), I saw a counsellor and she hooked me up with some fantastic resources. Now (five months later) I regularly attend GLBT potlucks, PFLAG meetings, a GLBT choir, GLBT dances, and GLBT resource groups. I used to be really shy, but all the socialization has really increased my confidence and fine-tuned my gaydar.

Anyway, I thought that the counselling was a great first step, and I'd recommend it to anyone. Good luck, man!

EDIT: By the way - If you ever feel like you need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to e-mail me! I know that it's a pretty tough journey, and anonymous support's always nice.

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