What do you think of a man who stays with a woman and they have not had sex for over 10 years?

You wife is broken, and needs you to stay there for her, most women who get disinterested in sex, are actually feeling resent in a way toward the partner. A man can have sex anytime anywhere, but many women need to feel real love and respect for the man they make love to. When I am angry with my hubby, I hate sex with him and dont do it, because I dont feel really truly in to it. But still, she should at least bend over and take it for you on occasion even if she doesnt feel like it, right? And, also if she knows of the affairs, that is a total turn off sorry, you should have stayed faithful. But thats dead and stinking, and now you need to not do it again.

I am not sure how old your kids are, but I think that staying together for this kids is not really a good thing sometimes. What your children sees from the two of you is what they will base every single relationship they have for the rest of their lives. If the tow of you have intimacy problems it will show up with indifference and lack of emtion towards each other. Your children will gorw to think this is normal.

Really, you should get out and save yourself and also your kids. Your kids seeing the two of you happy and seperate is better then the two of you misreble and together.

Not everyone has a high libido or see the need to engage. However, it sounds like a personal barrier towards it, i.e could there have been a trauma when she was younger? I dont think women start out 'hating' it unless they perhaps may have had a series of bad experiences. Once its established as to why she dislikes it so much, i.e she may feel angry towards your affairs and may withold that from you inadvertently. Sounds like there is more to it and it has to do with not only esteem but perhaps hurt and anger?

WOW, YOU HAVE A DEEP PROBLEM. WHY DO SHE HATE SEX? WHAT DO YOU GET OUT OF SLEEPING WITH OTHER WOMEN? HOW DOES SHE FEEL ABOUT IT? DO THE KIDS KNOW? IF THE KIDS KNOW THEY WILL UNDERSTAND IF MOM AND YOU SEPARTE. ARE YOU SCARED OF CHILD SUPPORT? ARE YOU DOING IT WRONG? WHY DID YOU STAY THIS LONG? WHY BRING KIDS INTO THIS IF YOU'LL KNEW SHE HATED SEX? HOW OLD ARE THE KIDS? WHAT DID SHE SAY OR TELL YOU? DO YOU LOVE HER? DOES SHE LOVE YOU? MY LAST OPINION IN YOU DO KNOW THEY SAY OPIN... ARE LIKE AXX HOLE EVERYONE HAS ONE!!!! IS TO SIT DOWN TALK WITH HER. ASK HER WHAT SHE WANTS TO DO. IF THE KIDS ARE OF AGE FIND A WAY TO MAKE IT WORK IN DIFFENT HOMES. IF NOT TALK WITH THE KIDS. I WILL PRAY ON YOU GETTING THE ANSWER, IF YOU DO NOT MIND!

HAVE A SAFE IN GREAT DAY, HOPE THAT I HELPED.

Maybe she was sexually abused. I know most that were, do not like to have sex...or are overly promisquious. It's like hot and cold.

You say you love your kids, but you didn't say that you don't love your wife...

There has to be more reasons that you stay.

I wonder on your wifes point of view, if she thinks that you love her so much to stay even though she doesn't like sex. I wonder how she would feel if she knew.

I have alot of clients that call me for that very same reason. But they don't cheat (in their minds...phonesex is ok, because they are not out actually cheating.)

I have one whose wife listens in just because she likes the fantasies I tell, but she still doesn't want sex!

Your wife is probrably not interested in sex because of the way you make her feel. She is insecured about herself which makes her "afraid" or not enjoy sex. Do you two fight a lot? Does she know about your affairs? If she does, maybe she hates you and wants nothing to do with you let alone sleep with you.

Thats tough, but good for you for staying on the kids behalf.

Does she know about the affairs?

Not really sure if you should tell her and I'm not gonna blame you for doing it cause I understand where you're coming from.

I think you must love your wife as well as the kids are you would not stay. Sex is not everything. You can have great sex and a rotten marriage.

umm if there is no sex then you have a roommate. it is unfair to withhold from your spouse like that. its like only giving them money when you feel it is necessary. not a good place especially if you are already cheating.

Iam answering it in One sentence. He is unfit to be a man.