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What do you think about your fiance keeping a friendship with someone that they've cheated on you with?

Let's say that you live with your fiance, and you've caught them having an affair. Deciding to forgive, you agree to try to work things out. But they want to maintain a friendship with the person they cheated with. When you voice your objections, they argue that they aren't having sex, just friends. Should this be a problem, or should you accept the friendship? Is it okay for them to im each other, write each other e-mails, and to talk on the phone, or should the friendship be ended?

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Let's say that you live with your fiance, and you've caught them having an affair. Deciding to forgive, you agree to try to work things out. But they want to maintain a friendship with the person they cheated with. When you voice your objections, they argue that they aren't having sex, just friends. Should this be a problem, or should you accept the friendship? Is it okay for them to im each other, write each other e-mails, and to talk on the phone, or should the friendship be ended? Is it different rules for men virsus women? I didn't say it was the guy that was cheating.

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  • 2 decades ago
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    I'd think the fiance was still having an affair. If he won't end the "friendship", she should part ways while she still can, (ie-before they're actually married!) Once a cheater, always a cheater- as long as a woman is going to stick around and put up with it.

    Nobody that truly loves you would put you through that kind of torment.

  • 5 years ago

    I hate to declare it, yet sure. it fairly is inaccurate to bypass on together with her. i understand you would be disenchanted by utilizing it, yet think of the soreness and heartbreak her husband went by way of. How terrible it could be and how crushing to locate her cheating on you. placed your self in his footwear and additionally you will know it. additionally, if she cheated on him, what does that say approximately how have confidence worth she is? you would be injury by utilizing her. You suggested which you're feeling "undesirable, incorrect or perhaps ill". those words are maximum usually use to describe cheating. You sound like a solid guy caught in thoughts. locate somebody which you fairly love and who loves you.

  • 2 decades ago

    Tell him the engagments off until he calms his relationship. I understand where you're coming from. My ex cheated with my best friend and I decided to forgive and forget. I told him to calm down the relationship. He told me he would. Then on valentines day, he got off the phone with me to talk to her and then I looked at his phone bill. I made him quit that friend ship, and I lost my best friend cause she liked him. Then he was all upset cause I think he really liked her. stop that "relationship" before it gets too involved.

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