Do you think I have a chance to get married?

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I am a divorced man, 42 years old, 5 foot 9 inches and 350 pounds.  I have twin 16-year-old boys at home.  I have a decent income, so much debt that I have to be very careful with money.  I like to have fun and go places, but I come home from work exausted each night.

The lady I am interested in is in her 30s, is not fat and lives alone.  She has a well paying job that forces her to work about 60 hours each week.  She has a house and new car but not much other debt.  I met her through church and we believe the same things.  She has never been married.

We have dated a few times, but it seems to be hard to find time in her schedule for us to go out.  I don't think I love her yet, but my feelings are growing.  Do you think I have a chance with her?  If so, how long should we go out before I ask her to date exclusively?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There is no reason that you wouldn't have a chance with her, let her actions guide you and if you think she reciprocates your feelings then move ahead.  As for asking her to date exclusively, is she dating anyone else at the moment?  If not then wait until you seem to be at that stage in your relationship.  If she is then talk about it with her, 1 she will respect you for it and 2 it will give her a clue as to where you are wanting to take the relationship and she will give you feedback, either through words or actions.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, because you are both working a lot it will be hard to find time. A key part in your relationship is that you have the same beliefs, that is a lot to build on. Personally, I would wait until your children are grown, a new mom is a hard thing to deal with. Talk to them about it and see how they feel. Also, talk to her about how she feels and see if she sees any time in the near future that you would be able to spend together regularly. It is important to keep her inside the loop.

Anonymous · Answer

If she's already dating you, i think you have a good chance with her. I would wait until your heart is sure she's the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with, then ask her if you two can date exclusively.

xxtra chocolate · Answer

Honey, if this woman was interested in you, she would find more than enough time to spend with you. Trust me, she wouldn't let work, or anything else get in the way...In any case, the only way you're going to discover if you have a chance with her is if you talk with her about how you feel.

Anonymous · Answer

i think you better get a move on and ask this woman out before some other man does. and what age are you ,if you say your a man of 42 then you know if you date someone you only date that person you don't date anybody else. make time and ask her out before shes moved on. good luck and i hope it works out

Anonymous · Answer

I think you deserve a nice lady like the one you are dating .  get her to come to your house for supper or after church for lunch if you don't have time to go out somewhere ,  at least you would be spemding time together.

evercurious · Answer

If someone is really important to us, we find a way to make them our top priority.  The fact that you are not number 1 in her life is all you need to know to look elsewhere for someone who will appreciate you.  So keep your options open.  Maybe when she sees you starting to look elsewhere, she will move you up on her priority list.

~LiL_AnGeL~ · Answer

SAY WHAT? IF YALL ARE ALREADY GONE ON DATES THEN WHY YOU ASKIN WHEN YOU SHOULD GO ON AN "DATE EXCLUSIVELY"???? YOU CONFUSIN ME!

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