If a guy needs space but continues to see you and talk to you, what's that really mean?

Guys can tend to get clostrophobic in situations like this. Love having you there but only when they want you there. I'm not sure on his thinking after such a long relationship but it would seem to me that he is distancing himself because he does want out but can't face the fact that he will be alone and probably doesn't want to be alone therefore still calling you.He definately loves you but doesn't know the best way to address the issue, therefore keeps up the pretence that everything is fine by calling you, wanting you etc..

On the other hand i could be wrong, i'm no expert

I almost always end up having sex with my ex. I know its bad and a tad pathetic. Its always better after you have broken up?? Its just so easy because you know what they like etc. Recently, I was in a relationship with a girl and my heart wasn't really in it. I told her that I wanted to end it because I always seem to end up with nice girls who are just not for me. Anyway, when she came around to get her belongings, she kind of hung around for a while, one thing led to another and we ended up having really hot, wet sex. She still wants to keep seeing me for occasional sex but if we do, I am worried she wont let go. The fact that I dont want to be with her doesn't mean that I am not attracted to her, so i struggle to turn her down as she is a pretty girl. In your situation, i think he is probably playing with you and just wants to hang around for the sex? But i don't know the situation like you do. 4 years is a long time but I say cut him off. He broke up with you.

maybe he likes you but is nervous getting to close, because he may never dated before or has been hurt pretty bad and wants to go slow...........