Only serious answers please, this is a difficult time for me.?

I'm faced with this similar situation. My boyfriend has a daughter previously, and I try to help out as much as I can, because I am more available- but her mom hates me, and refuses that I have anything to do with his little girl. He gets very very depressed too. All I have to do is let him know that I love HIM, and let him know that I'm here for him whenever he needs me. That gives an open opportunity for him to involve me instead of me always trying to work something out to make it easier on him.

I'd stick with it- because your marriage is new, there will be a lot of compromising things to smooth out. I think, over time, they will both start to realize that you are a good thing in their lives & you can start to help out and be involved a lot more. Good luck!

Men generally wont talk about their perceived weaknesses. Pride. If he can talk to a family doctor that would be a huge step. I get a feeling that pride is an issue from what I interpreted out of this question about your husband. Does the son stay with the mother as in custody? Joint care maybe? 6 months is still pretty fresh for another woman to even think of her ex husbands new wife to be having their child in your care. (Honestly I'd smack her for you). You two got married for a reason and that needs to be brought up. Sorry I am not married or have kids, but I felt I could help give you some input. Get your friends involved may help a bit. Depression is a serious matter and again he should see his doctor. Good luck and I hope everything works out.

You are right..this is the time that u have test urself by standing by his side and making huim feel that he still is loved. U can help him by talking to him and telling him that everything will be alright and he will find a good job and stuff..u can also find a job and help with financial issues.

U can do anything with his illness because its something that a doctor can do..take him to a good doctor and find out if his illness is curable.

No matter what u have to give it a shot untill u know there is nothing u can do..thats what marriage is all about..

Marriage is not about all fun and sex..its also about supporting each other and making sure the other is taken well are of.

He does need help. If he does not want help from you maybe you can get his closest friend to talk him into telling what is troubling him. Sorry to say it only took you six month to be in this condition. Be strong for him and you. You just let things flows until he talks to you about it. Maybe he does not want to trouble you. You did not mention whether you are working or not. Always be there for him. Talk to him about other things don't question him or asked him about the whole scenario. Some people like to counter their own problems maybe he is one of them. Do you really know him before you married him , if you do then just be patience and treat his son like your own. When he is at home be with him, sooner or later the child will be close to you as you show your caring and loving person you are. May God be with you.

Ur his wife...u should voice these problems to him and according to his response hopefully it will be a good one u can discuss your opinion and express your love and emotions... a good marriage takes a lifetime so don't think to run at the first sign of a rocky road...but don't allow urself at the same time to also be abused for something you have no control over...so the best thing for this situation rite now would be to let time heal his wounds and just stand by his side and prove to both urself and him that there is true genuine love the ur marriage is built on... so just hang on...its always harder before its easy

I'm a divorce attorney and I've seen this scenario before.

You've been warned, and you've experienced the prelude to the disaster forthcoming. If you don't follow your better instincts and escape in one piece, you may be unable to do so later. This is not trivial or speculative. It is very familiar. Pick up and get out without delay. If you focus your concern on him or on his son, you will channel yourself to sink lower than him, and destroy your self-esteem. You will be destined for serious emotional and physical consequences. Don't think this can't happen to you. It will. You've been warned.

Feel free to contact me. I'll try to direct you more specifically and even to give you the strength to move on.

What state do you reside in? There may be good support for you in your area.

try to get some counseling for both of you. He may put up a fight but if he loves you, he will do it. you did not say what he had....I don't think. Find out why she won't let you watch the son...sooner or later, she will have to get along with you. Just don't act like you're taking her place.

If he is emotionally abusive....maybe you need to get an annulment.

Tough one. A male doesnt like NOT being able to support his family. Its an insult to accept help from others....especially other men. Now, the question is...is he trying to get a good job? If he isnt, then get on him about it, but if he is...then decide if money is more powerful than love.

this sounds like a receipe for disaster. Time to take a poll of you situation. Cant help anyone who doesnt want help. You can get out and from what you are saying its time to head into the sunset

Yes please don't call his job crappy and look down upon him while he is the most vulnerable. He needs your emotional support right now. Anytime you are able to, say something positive to him. I am not sure what type of illness your husband has, but please be patient with him and pray! Bless you for sticking to it.