How can't I forgive & forget?

I am in the same spot as you. MY Gf and I broke up about two months ago and then a week later she told me she had slept with this guy from school. She It was not while we were going out but after.

Anyway the last month we have hung out and she has told me that she loves me and wants me to tell her I love her too which i do. I always have.

Anyway I don't know for sure if we are getting back together but like yourself the thought of your lover with someone else just burns you up inside.

My suggestion, if you really love him and want to get back together with him and feel that he is being sincere in apologizing and that it is over, then you pretty much want to be back with him. That is where I am right now. Just not 100% sure if the girl i like is in the same place

They say once a cheater always a cheater but that sometimes is not true and if you can learn to trust the person you are with again, hopefully things will work out.

Throughout my ordeal I have realized one thing, there is a difference between forgiveness and regaining trust. I have learned to forgive the girl i am with, but the trust needs to be rebuilt.

Hey I know your probably toally in to this guy and you shared so many things together. Well it seems to me that he wanted to get with this girl and it didn't work out b/t her and him and he already knew he would have you to turn back to so you accepting him proved his point you were security to him but my advice is that he will eventually try and do it again and I think you should try to move on, try living by yourself change never hurted anyone, it may be hard but Im sure you are strong to do it. You need some fresh air.

Forgiveness is physically powerful bit I basically forgive and ill under no circumstances act the comparable around them my mom used to hit ne while i replaced into 3 and that i do no longer have confidence her I do something at the back of her back so I basically forgive yet I additionally ignore!

im going through the same thing..."u want what u cant have" hes going through that right now with u...mayb this woman doesnt mean anything to him anymore if he wants u to move back in with him then there u go...but if u get back together with him ur going to have trust problems with him so hes the one that has to work on this relationship to get ur trust back...but then do u really want to get back together with him? what ur going through right now is a normal breakup..can get him out of ur mind? when the phone rings u want it to be him? hes the first thought u wake up to and when u go to bed? I KNOW...but dont let that keep u from making the right choice...u need to ask urself what u really want and will make u happy...just bcuz hes not in ur life anymore doesnt mean u cant b happy with someone else...ur in control of ur thoughts and feelings..dont abuse them by hurting urself like that..best of luck to u! mayb u can answer my last ? also please if u have any advice :)

that is up to you. we cant answer that for you. but we can help you. If you truely love him and will forgive him then accept him back. but if you have lost your trust in him then dont. it is really up to you. sorry and hope you make the right decision!

get some couples counseling. you have to deal with your anger first.

don't give up that easy.. he has to understand that you're very precious and hard to get after the pain he caused.. you're not his toy...

HE BROKE UP WITH YOU TO BE WITH HER!! DUH!!! He didn't do it for space he did it to be with her...which means he absolutely cheated on you before this was over.

EVEN if he didn't and he did...don't go back. he isn't worth it.

tell him to get ******... He took ya for granted, and ****** up. Go for someone who appretiates you more.