hurting friend?

thats is hard to answer sorry.

If you feel it's wrong, trust your instincts. Man, this is a tough one. Does your husband know this guy's saying this? I know.. he probably doesn't as he wouldn't understand (and you like the friend enough you don't want to hurt his feelings I bet.) You sound nice. I think it's nice to say you love someone BUT it sounds like (or you wouldn't be getting these female or 'bad vibes' here) it's going a bit further with him. Is it someone you have to be around (say a co-worker.. a neighbor, friend of a friend?) I'm betting it is. I think you are l00% right and he's got a hell of a crush on you, honey.. Can you say go somewhere there are friends (your friends?) .. an office party.. restaurant .. and say 'hook him up?' Who do you think would be a good partner for him? You ought to give it some thought. You'd be doing him a favor. I just don't know.. Somebody's going to write to 'dump him' . You've got to decide how to handle this. Is there any chance you are a teensy bit flattered and interested in him? (I confess.. if I were you.. I would be.. honestly!) It's tempting for me because I've a dreadful marriage and I like to write on the internet (cause I'd die of loneliness if I didn't.. no kidding!) also, if you keep saying it enough.. (I can't do this.. I'm married) he'll get the point sooner or later. (g'luck) melancholia

Although it's going to be hard for you to hear this. The true of the matter is you should really stay away from him.

Your family relationship should be more important to you. Imagine if your husband had a women as a friend and she tells him she loves him, how would you feel? You would want him to stop see her as a friend right. So you should give the same respect to your husband. Just let your friend down easy. Tell him your doing it out of respect for your husband.

Being married is just whatever the people who got into the marriage think it is, and what they make it be. SOmetimes just a peice of paper, sometimes way more than that. Being married should not keep people from going after love, maybe not for going after sex either.

Well there are all kinds of love in the world. As long as no lines are crossed, I say don't punish him for loving you.

But don't get involved intimately with him, and if you feel like you have to hide this from your husband, there is most likely a problem.

you can love him as a friend, but if he is asking you to keep your relationship a secret from your husband, then he has other motives believe me. If he is your friend, then he should be your husband's friend too, and above all he should respect your marriage and respect you enough to want you to be happy in it. Otherwise, he just wants what is not available. And that is no friend, that's just a player.

been there... best move (for me so far) is to stay away. your conscience is still the better judge. unfortunately, u can only go as far as to tell him that you can never be with him... or a get a restraining order. either way, u cannot really control how he will act. as long as your own actions/ mind are/ is clean, that's the best u can do

well if you feel that is is wrong i dont thank that you have to tell him because its how you feel about it you dont want to get your man mad at you over something small just tell him that he is a very good friend and that you dont belive that it would be right to tell him that because you only tell your man that kind of stuff

If that your best friend then it ok but if he isnt then you need to tell him how you feel about him saying that you love him

I love alot of people with out doing anything sexual and its not a problem. do you love someone your not married to ..... then why is it such a big deal.

It is. you should cut ties with him until he gets over it. Nothing good can come from it...And, by the way,,, "friendship love' my ***.