if my son's father used to abuse me physically is it possible for him to change? he says he wants to be with

No eventually I'll go back to physically abuse you again because he has gotten away with. Eventually he will abuse your son. He is showing your son that it is okay to abuse women every time he hits you. If he stops it will only be for a short time and when he starts back he'll have an excuse as to why he hit you.

Physical abuse problems in a domestic situation is as alcoholic and drug related situations. Sure that person can go to counciling and medical help, but in truth do they ever really stop? Very very few do benefit and change, but honestly my question to you is, do you want to risk it and bring up your son in an enviornment where it is so dangerous and unhealthy to him. How sure can you truly be that he won't raise his hand at you? I am not you nor am I in your shoes.. but If I were you, I'd love myself more and my child.. this man is not the man to be at my side or that of my child.. had he truly loved me the first time he would have respected me as a human being and mother of his child. You and your son deserve better, don't give up and don't fall into a trap again. You know what he has to offer... why not see what else you can gain and truly love and be loved. He had his chance.. he blew it..

Yes! However, only after professional help/counseling, and some deep soul searching. Abuse is something to always be taken very seriously. Men/women who are abusive usually have come from relationships where they themselves have been abused. Therefore, from experience; one must have professional help to overcome this very self defeating behavior. Ask him about what has changed him and how it is still impacting his life as of today. Most importantly, take your time. Don't rush back into the relationship with him. Set up limits/boundaries, and let him know that you are just friends. Work your way back into a relationship, and make him work his way back into your heart....Best wishes...

hun it is possible (but i believe and have been there) that a man can only change his abusive ways through the hands of God. it takes a complete miracle and life changing to happen and even at that abusive tendencies are his weakness so therefore he will can always fall into that temptation. be careful my dear anything is possible with God, but you also need to do some changing and ask God to help you forgive this man completely (you do not want to go back into this relationship if you have any resentment) and ask for strength and awareness that if any incident were to occur you would know how to handle it the right way. also before deciding anything ask for protection over you and children. Yes he can change it is possible! please pray, pray, pray!!

More than likely no. Maybe with some extensive counseling and anger management it might be possible. I would stay away from him. They will lie to you and tell you what you want to hear so that you will stay with them. He will control you and beat you down and possible kill you if you stay with him. Besides it is teaching your son to be that way. Do you want your son to grow up and treat women that way? Do what is best for you and your son, not for him. Hang in there.