ive been w/him for 7yrs.?

I am have been with my kids dad for alomost 8 years as well. We are on our 4th baby and still not married. It didn;t bother me until this year when it started to dawn on me why we never did get married. i guess it was the stubborness of everyone telling us we SHOULD be married. But now I see what they meant. I never really thought much until I caught him flirting with other girls and wanting to hang out with them. It all the 8 years tht is one thing I never expected to see. We or so I thought we had a great relationship. yes we fought and had a lot of stress but I never thought thaat maybe the reaosn he never offically said I do was because he wasn;t 100 percent sure or that he still wanted to be comnsidered "single" So my advice is to look deeper. If htey don;t think it is serious then what would be the harm in making you happy? You already spent 8 years lovign him now it is his tiurn to show you and if he has issues there IS a BIGEr reaosn NO MATTER what he says. I am sure you know him well and get those "feelings" something is weird....do what is right for you. good luck

My mother just recently left her boyfriend of 9 years. He always said the same thing to her. That she was good enough to be with but he didnt want to marry her. My mother is 41 and she finally realized that she has alot of life left and she wants to find somebody who does want to settle down. I think you should do the same if your boyfriend doesnt change his tune. Life is too short.

Sorry, but I think you are stupid to get into a long-term relationship without the committment of marriage.

Are you still "trying things out"? For God's sake, you have TWO KIDS together.

GROW UP! Get married and stop screwing around.

If being married is really important to you then you need to treat it that way. You need to bring it up when you two can sit down and discuss it and he can't just joke it off. Tell him this is something you want and it is no joke and that he hurts you when he jokes it off. Tell him you want to marry him and you want to set a date.

Leave him if ur not good enough to marry after 7 years and 2 kids why would u want that. I told my boyfriend if he wasent sure he wanted to marry me after 5 years then he wasent sure he really wanted me (common sense) and that I was going to leave him, and now were married lol, b/c he wanted me to stay in his life.

i think u need to sit down and talk with him. tell him how u feel and what he can do about it. ask him how he feels about and reply.i really think its kind of odd that uve been together 8 yrs and arent married.