why does an in-law treat you nasty when all you do is kiss their a.. for you relative's sake?

Stop kissing a** if it doesn't change anything. There could be about a million reasons in their little heads why they don't like you. Who knows, and who cares either. A lot of times it's not even you personally but more the position you are in. They are jealous you have taken over most of their child's priority. The way a man/woman relationship should be, but they can't accept that.

I am also going through the same thing and I haven't kissed a** in years because it didn't help anything. My situation is so extreme that I have never gone inside my in-laws home in 4 years and never attend any holidays because I know if I'm around them they will start messing with me... its guaranteed. They can't help themselves. It sucks as far as my relationship with my husband goes but I am much happier to not be around them then to be around them because they just refuse to treat me decently. Even in my own home they can't seem to do it.

There is one thing in life that is a universal truth..in order to give respect you must get respect regardless of what you feel about the person, you show respect anyways. A lot of times in-laws know they have you trapped so they treat you any way they want because "the right thing to do" is just grin and bear it. You know what I say "F*** them". Don't let these idiots destroy your relationship.

Not all in-laws are that way. However, I do sympathize, because my in-laws are.. I quit kissing their a** years ago...If my husband is not going to stand up to his parents, than I have to...good luck. This is in no offense, really, to my spouse. He just doesn't stand up to his parents when he should...

Because in their mind you aren't good enough for their precious child. Believe me I know.

Because All in-laws are demons from hell.

in laws are suppose to do that