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What should i do in this situation?!?!?

My girlfriend of 9 months is in complete love with me. I love her too. But I am going to go to school far away, and she asked if we could get married before i go, as to assure her that i will be committed. Issue is, im 20 and she's 19. Also, she keeps asking me when can we have a baby, and questions of the sort.

Now personally it scares me, but i dont know what to do. Ive spoken to her many times about how i feel regarding this topic, but all stays the same and next day im being asked if i know how cute our child would be. Im afraid to even have sex with her anymore, cuz i feel like she'd try to do something irrational.

So what should i Do? I've tried to be as understanding as i could be.

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  • Chris
    Lv 4
    2 decades ago
    Favorite Answer

    Think with the head between your ears

    and education is priceless you need the direction

    Love hurts and it can last explain your goals for you and your babies with her when you get that education and if she still can't accept that take a drive through the Projects (welfare housing) and explain that most of these people had babies before their goals were accomplished.

    Good Luck PPP---Patients, Polite, Perseverance

  • 2 decades ago

    if you are both in love find out if she'll move to the city you're moving to. Tell her a baby right now will ruin your chances of getting excellent grades and getting a high paying job. Let her know that if she gets pregnant now that you want to go on with your school and she will be alone with the baby most of the time. Which is not easy.

  • 2 decades ago

    ok i was married at 19 and had my daughter at 20 we married cause we were in love with each other well i am going on 24 and i still love my husband but like a song goes she was married at 20 she loves her family but she wonders if there is life out there. you don't want to get married and neither of you think that in a few years it hard cause then you do unfaithful acts and then you know it your be unmarried lucky me i am very faith and so is my husband.

    now for a baby it is a very hard job that both parent should be there you wont be able to concentrate on your school your see alot of your unmarried friends with no kid start to grow farther apart from you and you really cant afford to go out cause you have the bill of having a kid and you want school so your have that bill.

    i honestly would sit down and talk to her if she don't understand you can messenger me and i talk to her.

    if she really truly loves you she will trust you will wait for her and wait till you have a good job and are both totally ready for kids if she still cant understand i know it be hard but then you need to let her go it better to love then never loved at all.

    today society you need a college degree to get a good job to support a family and live good.

  • 2 decades ago

    Sorry loverboy but ur best bet is to get out. Tell her b4 u leave u don't want to continue the relationship. Because she trying to trap you with a baby. u too young for a family, u have not lived yet. Go off to college and meet new girls, date and have fun. But if old girl start trippin u might have to put a restrainting order on her. Good luck! You'll need it.

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  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago

    Well look at it this way her vagina is a financial monster and will ruin ur life just ignore her and have her suck ur dick most of the time and use a condom with spermicide she might be crazy enough to take ur old comdom and impregnate her self so good luck

  • 2 decades ago

    Run run far away she should be concentrating on your future maybe "our" not trying to trap you give her a promise ring maybe that will be enough

  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago

    Time to run like hell. The girl is unstable.

  • 2 decades ago

    have as many babies as possible...

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