how can i get a partner, when i got extreme low self esteem?

Look , for some wierd way, the more you want something, the less you'll get it. Just maybe dont think about it much. Act like "watever, if it happens it will happen" and wen you least expect it ...BOOOOM! It will be right there, for you just to grab the moment. TRust me....

You need to work on your confidence more... Keep working out at the gym... There are places where you can go to work out your anger (ex. anger management classes ) You have to like yourself before you like someone else. You are still young yet. People should start looking at other people for whats on the inside and not the outside. Mrs right is out there somewhere and when you get your confidence level up and give off a good energy people will notice you. Always seem happy go lucky sometimes that helps and Just be yourself. Good luck...

Okay so maybe it will work out with her and maybe it won't. The thing is that if you don't feel like somebody without her, then you won't feel like somebody with her. If you are looking for a partner to fill yourself up on self-esteem, then you will likely drain her dry. No one can give you what you don't have for yourself. Nor can you give away love for others that you don't have for yourself.

Going to the gym is a great start...excellent choice! What are some other activities that make you feel good about yourself ? What are your talents? What are you good at? What can you do to develop social relationships with others? Doing these things will help you to feel good about yourself and to put you in a position to meet people.

Keep in mind that rejection is part of the game. Not everyone will appreciate you for who you are. But the one who does appreciate you and who can compliment you may be the very one you are looking for. Keep up the good work and it will happen.

It sounds as if you have some serious problems that deserve your full attention and some resolution before you seek to involve another person in your personal life.

This girl may have sensed the serious neediness in you and backed away, which would have been a healthy choice for her and for any other person.

The issues you have mentioned could be not only harmful to finding and developing any personal relationships, they can be very harmful to you and to any person who has poor enough prospects to find someone with these issues a desirable partner. Remember, people choose partners who are near their own level of dysfunction. When two people who each have serious issues get together they do not double the psychological problems between them, they multiply the problems.

Professional help seems to be an important component here.

Work on developing groups of platonic friends to help satisfy the need for contact while you are healing yourself with professional help.

If you want someone to love you, you have to love yourself. It's time to get in touch with you. Start by making a list of all your positives and focus on those. Tell yourself everyday something that you like about yourself. Be kind to you. When you feel good on the inside, it will show on the outside and then you will find the woman you are looking for. Best wishes.

continue to work on yourself IE going to the gym are you in some kind of counseling you need to find out why you are having the problems you are. work on you then think about adding someonelse

With regard to the whole thing: Sounds like you're too attached. If you would let things alone more I think they would go better.

With regard to this girl: Who knows, if it works it works, if it doesn't it doesn't. What could be done?

First of all bud... you won't find someone untill you're fine with yourself and ok with being alone... trust me.. it's proven... you really shouldn't worry too much about it.. You're still pretty young... Just sit back... and get comfortable with yourself

just keep going out to places...you'll meet heaps of people. don't try and rush into dates or anything...it's easy to get yourself in a rut but once you get out and meet people, you'll wonder what all the fuss was about.. :)

text her some jokes to make her laugh,you sound like your doing alright with her other wise.