should i give him another chance?I've was with my ex for 6 years, we have a son together.?

your son needs a mother and a father.

I know you want to be with your son's dad... Having a whole family is your goal, right? I understand that, but what does he mean by he loves you, but was never in love with you? Don't settle for anything!!!! I would tell him that your son needs him and he could start by being a DAD!!!! Don't jump into anything at all, and don't settle. If you just take him back then he knows he can do anything with you...

He kicked you to the curb and wouldn't be a dad.... make him feel the pain and you will find out if he is sincere or a looser... Whatever you do, don't jump back together with him... take it as friends first and see what naturally happens... If he means it, that will be enough until you want more, if he doesn't then it's better you found out first than hurting your son even more...

Your son is the most important factor in this decision.... Put him first and make the guy do the same thing....

He would have suffered some style of neurological quandary. Or he is affected by depression. Or he is on dope. Or any combination of the three. I do know you're annoyed and angry at him. But for your son's sake, you would wish to breathe a sigh of comfort that your ex is out of the snapshot. He is very likely an extraordinarily bad chance to depart your son with proper now. Your accountability is to give your son a nurturing, caring safe environment. I believe very strongly that your ex will provide nothing of the kind correct now. Probably one day he might exchange for the simpler. But correct now, the thought of him being by myself along with your son must fill you with a chilling experience of main issue. My recommendation? Don't push for to any extent further contact than is absolutely quintessential. And as hard as it perhaps so that you can get via financially, you would reconsider pushing for child support. That offers him a maintain on you both. Second bit of advice? Contact youngster welfare, or a good lawyer if you can come up with the money for one. Find out what protections which you could get in your son. Because I truthfully feel you want them with this man. Just right luck.

He might have suffered a few variety of neurological concern. Or he is discomfort from despair. Or he is on dope. Or any mixture of the 3. I understand you are annoyed and irritated at him. But in your son's sake, you could desire to respire a sigh of alleviation that your ex is out of the snapshot. He's almost certainly a VERY dangerous hazard to depart your son with correct now. Your accountability is to deliver your son a nurturing, worrying SAFE atmosphere. I suspect very strongly that your ex will furnish not anything of the variety correct now. Maybe at some point he could difference for the higher. But correct now, the notion of him being on my own along with your son will have to fill you with a chilling feel of drawback. My recommendation? Don't push for any further touch than is without doubt imperative. And as hard because it perhaps so that you can get through financially, you could rethink pushing for baby help. That offers him a keep on you each. Second bit of recommendation? Contact baby welfare, or a well legal professional if you'll manage to pay for one. Find out what protections you'll get in your son. Because I actually consider you wish to have them with this guy. Good success.

That is a definite no. It's not like he made time for his child, if he did it would be a little different situation. He is not worth your heartache again, or your son's for that matter! Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater and especially if it took him 6 years to realize what he had with you and his son!!! I say let him see his son if he is not an abuser, because every child deserves a father, but other than that tell him that any relationship you and him had in the past is just that - the PAST!

Be strong - don't give up - do what is best for you and your son. It doesn't matter what he wants because it seems to me that he made that decision a long time ago, and it sure wasn't to be with you.

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I think that it would probably not be in your best interest to go back with him. He's proven in the past that not only did he cheat on you and cause the end of the relationship, but he also isn't helping with your child. I'm sure it's possible for people to change and become better, realize that they made mistakes and what not, but it's a huge risk to take. It's not just you that will be hurt in the end if things don't work out. Really, in the end the choice is up to you, but make sure you really think things through before deciding one way or the other. Best of luck to you. I have two kids, one is special needs, and it's hard as hell to do it on your own, but it can be done and the children can thrive as long as they have love in their lives.

~This is another one of those difficult questions to answer, but I will do my best. First of all, I'm so sorry this has happened to you. As for your ex--he was indeed a real jerk before. I know people can make HUGE mistakes, realize what they have done and what they have lost, and really change. I know from experience that this can truely happen. It may not be true in your case but the only way to find out is give it ONE more try. I don't know either of you so this is based on just my opinion, of course. It would be really great if your son could have his mother and father back, but if you did decide to give him one more chance--Make sure you let him know that there would be NO more and that he would have to prove himself and really have changed. Well, I hope everything works out that's best for you and your son. Good Luck!

Seems like the "ex" is an "ex" boyfriend, not husband, right? Honey....you put yourself in that situation and if you want to point blame at someone, point at yourself. If you go back to him, the first fine thing that comes along that shows a speck of interest will have you back on the street. You are suppose to LEARN from you mistakes. You are a mother for God's sake! Once that happens, it's not about you and him, it's about your child. Go to legal services and get some child support and visitation rights from the father and keep your distance. Once a liar and cheater, always a liar and cheater.

First of all, a man who would kick out his own child and the mother of his child is not a man by any stretch of the imagination.

Having a child together with a man is not a sufficient reason to be with him. If he says he loves you, BUT is not 'in love with you', why would you event hink about taking him back?

You should value yourself enough as a woman to tell him no. You deserve to be in love and to have a man who is in love with you as well. If you go back with this "man" you may very well miss out on your chance at finding true love. Also consider the effect on your child, as well as the fact that he could wind up getting back togther with this woman again (no matter how much he may swear to you that he is done with her...believe me...he isn't) and if he gets back together with her again, you and your child will be in the same boat as before...out on the streets.

He's a cheater, he's a liar and he turned his back on his own child...kick him to the curb permanently.

A leopard like that doesn't change his spots, and you and your child deserve better.

Date him but don't live with him. Act like you couldn't care if he likes you or not but try to look good and stuff... you know.

Make him chase you some and prove to you that he will be there for the long haul. Let him know that you are a woman who doesn't NEED him to do anything for you out of sympathy.

If he falls in love with you or realizes that he was in love with you all along, give it a true shot and maybe he'll be a better person. If not, then it won't be the end of either of your lives.

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