how long would you stay married...?

When my husband became critically ill and needed a liver transplant, a member of my family thought I should divorce him. I was so shocked . My husband became so ill that he was incapable of any normal activities. He could barely walk, let alone keep food down. Thank God he received his transplant about two weeks before he would have died. God blessed him with 9 more years of life. Our marriage and family life became so much better. I truly feel that those nine years were a gift from God. About two years ago he developed cancer and went to be with God.

My point is that marriage is for keeps. It is not something that should be so easily discarded like a piece of trash. I will never regret staying with him and being by his side.

Sheila

That's a really hard question to answer, and I think very few people could answer it with absolute certainty unless they were in that situation.

It's easy to give the noble response "Til death do us part", but to actually stand beside a coma victim for 40 years is a whole other thing.

A number of factors can change a person, their personality, and their outlook over time. Including time itself. We can guess on how we'll feel about things tomorrow, or the day after, or 60 years from now, but we can't say for certain.

I can't answer this question. I'd like to say something honourable and sweet, but it might turn out to be a lie someday when I'm in this very spot, and that is what's preventing me to do so.

I suppose we'd all like to have a special someone that would stand by our side and hold our hands as we're being tethered to a life support system, but at the same time I wouldn't expect anyone to. To think of my future spouse as spending the rest of her life looking at me wither away into nothingness doesn't give me any comfort. I'd rather see her move on and be happy.

That's a tough one and probably depends both on the circumstances and the person involved. Most of us took the "for better or worse, sickness and health" type vows, but the reality is that life is short and the best of intentions tend to collapse in the face of day to day reality. If there were a chance my wife would recover after an accident, I would certainly hang in there, but if she were in a coma or permanently brain damaged, I would probably decide to move on, although I would feel a tremendous obligation to see to her ongoing welfare and comfort.

It probably comes down to how much you believe you are gaining karma or points in some afterlife. If you don't believe in an afterlife (which I don't), you probably would move on. If you think you are somehow building up credit by hanging in there, you might stick it out (good luck and hope you get a reward).

Till death us do part... I had a strange case though. married this guy, he got real sick 1 month married - diagnosed w/ MS. took Every penny i had and then some. he knew he was sick but didn't tell me so i would take care of him cause I worked and had health insurance - but boss wouldn't add him to policy. bankruptcy due to excessive medical expenses. So i would have stayed till death, but I caught sick man home in my poor broken down bed with his best friend's wife after snorting... you can guess the rest. If he had been a real person I would have stayed no matter what but he wasn't and I didn't so there. I am better off cause I have a new marriage with a real love. AMEN!

My hope would be til death do us part..... I take it you are not married nor maybe old enough to be...... Marriage should be treated as very sacred.... Not always perfect and no one can answer this question other than with genuine hope that they will do their best to live by their vows..... Until this happens to you how can anyone say for sure how they would handle it....... My prayer would be that this sort of thing would cease to happen to anyone...... Marriage should be taken seriously, it is not always a fairy tale..... Fairy tales are not real......... Life is real...... What a question......... No wonder I stay on the lighter side of answers...... But I can understand your reasoning to wanting to know what people would say....... Bottom line....... I think until you walk in those shoes, you nor anyone else could really answer....... Some people may be too weak emotionally to see someone suffer who is brain dead..... After years it could really take a toll....... Chills run on my spine........ I love my hubby dearly and would pray I would be able with GODS help to endure it for him and for our family... Best wishes......

This is a really tough question and one we must all ask ourselves. I've thought about it before too. Of course I would try to stick by my husband, but I would try to get some help in doing so, because I know what an emotional burden it can be. I've often wondered, what would I do to fulfill my needs if my husband could no longer fulfill them?

It's a troublesome question to ask, indeed.

Uh, by the way, some people write their own vows.. hence, no death do us part. It's not REQUIRED in the vows, you know. Are they less devoted? What about them?

I think you know my answer. Marriage is a life-long commitment and no health trouble or accident or physical or mental illness would cause me to leave my wife. There are deal breakers in a marriage, but something like that...that is beyond the control of the person you are married to is NOT a deal-breaker. Unfaithfulness is a deal breaker and that covers a wide area. Great question though! ~ Joe

Even though I'm now divorced ,

( I don't consider being unfaithful an illness on his part.lol ),

when I took my marriage vows it was "till death do us part" And I was willing to honor those vows until the infidelities. That's what it's all about being there for one another through thick and thin.

I would stay by her no matter what. no conditions would be placed. I take the vow to death we part seriously. if for some reason this happens then obviously we part. but I would go to the extremes of staying by her side.

i would try to stay with the person as long as i could if i said till death do us part that is what it should be why marry someone and not stay with them threw everything good times and bad .i have been with the same person for 21 years if you would like to know and i am 38.