How do you stop yourself from getting spooked in a relationship?

Well, the best way to get over it is to face your own fears and stop living in the past. Instead of comparing this new guy with your ex, concentrait on the wonderful things he does, and what's different with this new person. In time, you'll find some sort of comfort and closure, and might be able to finally move on. This kinda helped me get over my demons too. ;-P Try not to let the past rule what could be a wonderful future.

Hey I feel you.I do the same exact thing. Every time I start feeling close to a man and he's feeling the same I freak out. I start pushing the guy away too. But atleast we know why we do these things and now we have to find a solution. We push them away cause we still have scars, they have faded alot be the memory is there. Then we have to realize that we are gonna miss out on other wonderful possibilities. Who knows, he might turn out to be a jerk too, but maybe the love of your life. The best way to deal with that is to remain independent about every aspect of your life. Financially, mentally and emotionally, but let him in sometimes. Have you ever explained your feelings and fears to him???

I know how you feel but as the old song says "Take time to know (him) it's not an overnight thing". Just go in with your head and don't let your guard down until you are sure this is the one. GIrl, I'm telling you the first red flag you see start running. Don't wait until there are 10 like I did but at the same time just have fun, go out and observe, don't get your hopes up too high. Let him prove you wrong. Good luck!

i went threw the same thing 3 times sweetie, they lasted 5 years 2 times, i was scared to try again, now ive been with this man for 10 years with no redrets, i couldnt love him more, or have somebody love me as much, it was scarey at first, but hes proven to me theres nothing to worry about, and hes right, you cant be scared all the time, you have to let go and trust again,

How does one get spooked in a relationship? Unless they are hiding behind the door.

honey, you have to trust him. every woman has had a man treat her badly in the past, but that is no reason to push everyone away. this man loves you and wants to be with you, let him. he deserves your love and you deserve his. take the chance, the rewards will be great.

You need to set some ground rule's if a guy break's them dump him. Your in charge with yourself. Don't let them get hold of your emotion's. Get them to treat you the way u want to be treated.

take a step back and see what is good about your relationship and explain your fears to your partner dont bottle them up

i know how you feel,i have been hurt alot too and i push guys away because i don't no i want be hurt again.but if you found someone that loves you hold on too that okay........

Is there someone you can talk to? A counselor perhaps. You need to fix this. Does he know this, maybe you could talk about it with him.