why don't I want sex with boyfriend?

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I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. I am his first girlfriend and he is my first boyfriend; I have never been with any other guy. I never really enjoyed having sex with him by some reason, but I was ok with doing it when he wanted to. Recently I found that I don't even want to do it anymore. Whenever we are doing it, I just hope that he can finish as soon as possible. (and he unkowning obliges) Do you girls always enjoy sex? Do I have some kind of medical problem? something like "sex doesn't hurt but just not enjoyable?"

yer daddy · Accepted Answer

learn how to please yourself without him around. then teach him how to please you. a good man will listen and want to learn.

if you're not interested in sex in general, that's okay. for many girls, sex at your (assumed) age is not a desire, it's more of an act you do because you think you have to. most girls your age don't even experience orgasms. that part of you just isn't ready to enjoy the experience. don't worry about, it will come eventually (no pun intended). don't let it bother you.

and as long as you aren't physically bothered by the act, in a painful or uncomfortable way, relax while being intimate with your boyfriend. enjoy the idea of pleasing him, but make sure that he does things that please you in return - that could be a massage or a foot rub or scrubbing your back in the bathtub or brushing your hair... whatever. just make sure you openly communicate about all this stuff. good luck!

suheilly13 · Answer

you don't have a medical problem-he is not the sexual partner you need.  you need to find someon that will make you feel whole-you are lacking passion.  You should break up with him-its not healthy for you.  Be on your own, and maybe you will find that man that will make you scream for more.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe it's just not the right time for you or maybe he's not good at it. I enjoy sex sometimes. Sometimes my boyfriend wants to do it but I don't but just so he can be please I do it anyway but I don't be into it. Maybe your just not ready.

? · Answer

Sex is not an important issue with me. I get more pleasure knowing that I please him. I absolutely could do without sex.

jgmafb · Answer

chances are he's proably doing it wrong.you might consider moving on since he's the only one you've ever had.

WatRuLknAt · Answer

Because you're not IN LOVE with him.
You might love him, but you're not IN LOVE.

nthny_dms · Answer

Maybe he's hitting it right maybe he does'nt know how to work it.

Anonymous · Answer

maybe you just don't like guys

iwannajess · Answer

hes probably not doing it right, or hes not big enough

reds141414 · Answer

have you ever had a orgasm, learn to please yourself then try with him. if he cant do it for you them move on.

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