do long distance realionships work out?

It could work as long as there would be love that will unite you.

* How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work *

It's hard enough to make local relationships work, but having miles, States, and sometimes even an ocean between you makes it even more difficult. However, successful long distance relationships can and do exist. Here's how to give yours every chance to survive and thrive.

Steps

Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line.

Are you open to the possibility of relocating if the relationship should become more serious?

Communicate in some way every day - more than once if possible. Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don't have to be long, in-depth conversations (though those should occur sometimes). Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Sing songs together. Use an instant messenger program or VoIP for real-time chat, or webcams for that visual connection. E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget. Write love letters. Send small gifts or flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand - you don't take communication for granted!

Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers: more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps, the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again after a long absence, time to mull your options (rather than snapping at your partner impulsively) before you respond to that email s/he wrote that seemed so rude the first time you read it, etc. Most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality - something that can get lost in the shuffle when couples spend all their free time together.

Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart. If there's a movie you're both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterward and talk about it. Read a certain book at the same time. Stargaze while on you're on the phone. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off, and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too. Find creative ways to bond.

Avoid the temptation to be controlling. People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference. As soon as one of you decides the other is not a good match - or someone else is a better match - your relationship ends, whether you live 3000 miles apart, two streets over, or share the same bed with your wedding picture on the wall. You are going to have to trust each completely if this relationship is going to work.

Talk about your future together. Assuming that ultimately you'd want to live together, discussing how you're going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.

Know when to say good-bye. While this is tough in any relationship, this can be especially hard over long distances. When communication becomes one-sided or sparse for too long and for no apparent reason, when arguments (yes, you'll have them) become too frequent, when the whole thing just seems like more trouble than it's worth, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. Either you'll decide to go your separate ways, or you'll get closer for having overcome another obstacle to your happiness together.

Tips

A long distance relationship is no different from a proximal relationship in that they both require a great deal of work, excellent communication, patience, sacrifice and understanding. But you will have to work extra hard to maintain the communication and to stay focused enough to not let your daily life interfere with your desire to be with the other person. Don't forget them or you can forget the relationship.

One of the hardest parts of a long distance relationship is connecting when one person gets busier than the other. If this happens in a relationship it is important to maintain communication. If you are the busy person, try to warn your partner ahead of time that you will be working many hours and may have limited time. If you are the not-as-busy person, take advantage of the time by picking up a new hobby, getting in shape, reading a new book, etc. Flexibility is very important.

It helps to have a solid time in the future for when the long distance part of the relationship will end, no matter the time length. Without it, the relationship can begin to mold into something that is always distant - even with great communication. With it, potentially each person can see the point at which the distance will end and work harder to keep emotions readily available.

When talking to your partner, take note of things they enjoy the most (hobbies, day-to-day activities, etc...) and do a little research on it so you have more to do when you see them next. For example: If your partner likes to dance, find the location of different clubs where you will see them next. If you don't know how to dance, take lessons and you will impress them by your willingness to make an effort on their behalf.

Buy a Scrabble game that you can play together over the internet. You will be able to chat while playing and it will give a greater feeling of togetherness. If Scrabble is not your interest, find other games that can be played by two via the Internet.

Send each other spontaneous ecards.

Make a creative countdown (ie: photo calendar, a drawing for each day showing another thing you love about the person) and mail it to your partner to enjoy until you see each other next

Do not set unreasonable expectations for your visit. Fantasizing about the visit is fine, but not outloud or by email to your partner. Instead, enjoy the excitement of the surprises to come.

Warnings

Long distance relationships are not for the faint of heart. They can be very trying - but so can proximal relationships. If you are a very needy or jealous person, recognize that these tendencies may not be compatible with any type of healthy relationship, but may make a long distance relationship nearly impossible to sustain.

Remember that only you and your long distance partner understand the nuances of your relationship. Friends, family and colleagues may not understand your preoccupation with someone they have never met or rarely meet. Listen to their advice with a grain of salt unless they have been there themselves.

While instant messaging and e-mails play a large role in long distance relationships, remember that they can in no way replace verbal communication. Written conversations leave out the vital facial expressions and intonations that help your partner interpret the tone of the message. Save important conversations for the telephone or face-to-face communication so that everyone is on the same page.

It's different for everyone. Two very independent people with their own lives, have time to make a long distance relationship work, without over analyzing what the other person is doing all the time. They also have to be very mature, because petty jealousy from long distance will rip the relationship to shreds. Maybe if the commitment without the real togetherness part freaks you out, try a "no serious dating" to anyone else, and build up your commitment level from there. You don't have to be completely alone while waiting. I'm not saying be intimate with other people, just dinners, movies and hanging out. Leave the emotional aspect in your other relationship.

If the both of you want it bad enough you can make it work. The more time apart you are from someone you care about, the more you miss the little things about them and the more you long to be with them. If you can keep some kind of contact with that person it only enhances your feelings for them. The proof is in the amount of people on the web making connections or just chatting and swapping e-mails and photos. If you want it bad enough you can endure and make it happen, but your partner has to feel the same way.

I met a girl about 6 months ago. Things were going well but she moved to New Zealand 3 months ago.

It didn't work out I'm afraid. Which is sad because we were great together. There's a lot of strain because of the distance and you really have to trust each other.

However there are always exceptions so try not to worry too much

YES , ithey work like a dream , it gives a cnahce to get into the person more as there is nothing else you cna do !! , the absence of bodlly distraction will make a realtionship much more deep , just give it a try , you wont loose anything

They could if you want it to. I was in a long distance relationship and it was fun at first flying back and forth to see each other long phone calls but eventually it starts to get old. I moved to his state we moved in together and got married. You can make it work if that is what you want.

No, because you don't see each other and when you do its only a short time, and when hes over where ever he is he could be with other woman and just not telling you, and when you find out it will be the worst feeling in the world

Forget fate or anything like that just take it one step at a time and try and rekindle the spark you had the first time ....... best is to go to the spots where you became an item and take it all from there ...good luck.

I don't think long distance relationships work out. Because you never know if he/she is cheating on you. They could be going to clubs kissin other people and all that stuff so thats why i say they don't work out.

It all depends on if you two want it to work out together, it can work if you let the outside distractions stay out of the way and don't let them lead you down a different path.

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