Which makes a better mate..someone with a personality that is very similar to yours or the opposite of yours.?

It still depends on the people because I have actually been in both types of relationships and I found that being alike peersonality wise makes for a better quality sex life with them but being total opposites does spike the level of progress in that relationship a bit higher because of both people introducing each other to new things/a new way of doing things. So I guess I just led you back to your question huh? Sorry...

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Personality is a fluid thing. We all adopt the mannerisms, traits and even interests of the people we are around for extended periods. So to me a person's personality is largely irrelevant. It's the other person's character and deeply held moral beliefs that will determine wether or not a relationship will work.

I'm a bit of a grump, and I could really care less if the person is a fellow curmudgeon or a pie-eyed optimist, the mutual value system is what counts in the end. The rest is just window dressing.

I think everyone is different. Some people would be happier with someone who is their opposite, and some people would be happier with someone similar to themselves.

I've been married for over 17 years and my husband and I are very similar in some ways and complete opposites in others. In some ways it's nice to be opposite...I am shy and he is more assertive. When we are around other people and I am feeling shy and quiet, he is comfortable filling in the gaps and keeping conversation flowing. In other ways we are very similar, for example we both love the outdoors and enjoy doing things together like hiking, running, riding bicycles, etc.

I know some couples who are completely happy to have totally different interests and hobbies than their spouse has. It works for them but it would never work for me. It all just depends on what your own personal preferences and expectations are.

I've often thought that if my husband and I were more alike that we wouldn't have had as many struggles. But you know what? I would take an opposite personality any day. Not only is it more exciting, you can cover one another's blind spots ... where I am strong he is weak, and where he is strong I am weak. We complement one another. I have also found that the longer we're married, the more similar we have started to become. We aren't 2 different extremes any more, but have met somewhere in the middle.

Differences are good, but you should not go too far off the charts. I am a Neo Nazi Muslim,and my wife is a Zionist and a former diplomat for Israel. So we do not always see eye to eye. We are not that far apart, but we are different in many ways. She is much more practical and literal than I am. Her interests revolve around the hearth and the family. She is a bank manager not a domestic goddess, but our twins come first and what we do together with them. I love sports and politics and puns and my wife doesn't. We are so close to being on the same page.

A combination is best. Some examples;

Total opposites: A is a nurturer who is an anarchist. B is a nurtured who is a statist. Probably won't work because A is supposed to hate B and vice versa

Total identicals: A is a nurturer who is a statist. Same for B. Probably wont work because both will be trying to nurture eachother and neither one wants to be nurtured.

Combo: Both are anarchist but A is a nurturer and B isnt. It will probably work because they can share blowing up buildings and A can nurture B.

You should both find out what is really important to you,if you go skydiving every month and she is absolutely freightened of heights, you may have a problem,she may like to do something with her time when you are skydiving and you both meet up later but whatever the differences try to find out what differences you have and try to find a middle where you both can agree on the things that matter and maybe the rest will be an adventure for you!

I wouldn't use the word opposite. I would say compliment. I think similar personalities could get boring, but personalities that compensate for and compliment each other would work well.

Not complete opposites - Tried that and problems came around!

I would like to find someone with common interests and values.

for me it was the opposite of mine but had the same goals. I'm more of a people person and Hubby is more of a book person. Together we would make one dangrous person lol. I just had to knwo that on things like child raising we were ont he same page. That is important.