Husband disappears at 2 am and comes back with breakfast 6 hours later... HELP!?

if he has gambeling problem he took 200 out of your purse here sticky part is that he could use for gambeling or he could use for hooker. I am not sure how this been, He was gone so long? have you smell off of him something different like just took the shower? if he did mean he did have been hotel having sex and shower? He must of been on Porn online to meet person there? If me gamble and come home not clean or anything that mean I didn't sleep with someone if i did sleep someone and took the shower but has no choice no shower can smell sex or shower not notice. Check his car and see what you can find like under the car seat or/and check the trunk and glove boxes? check the reipect that he said that he got you breakfast and look that paper and it will tell you the time and then you ask him what time did you go get me breakfast if he said different like on the time then someting not right if he not have the reipect check the garbage to see what he throw so many things did he go in garage?? if so check around see what he normally do if he didn't want to be caught? How much money did he blow it if he blew 200 and check the bank account to make sure if he did use debit for breakfast... Make no sense what if he thinking about what did you ask what you thinking about if he not tell you what it is something not right. Maybe you need to find a friend who can watch him out of 2 am and follow and then let you know if he didn't answer the phone that you tried work, cell. but he would know that he need to answer it he might be in middle of sex and turn of the sound and finished come out and saw is cellur phone knowing that he so busted and maybe that why he was thinking driving around to think what best way..

Maybe you need to let him off the hook find a friend that he don't know who is that person and then have that person follow him?

I wish to know more but let me know, my email is greenbaypackers1920@yahoo.com. i would try to see what I can do to help... Ihave alot of male friend who tells me story how wifes don't know. so I try my best to help you to figure if he telling the truth or lying.

hope that helps.

What do you need?? My wife and I are here together and we feel like he should agree to some serious help from a pastor, counselor or someone that can give a non bias opinion. Just a quick question, how long are you willing to deal with this, 6 months, 5 years??? You can't live your life in paranoya, always wondering, you guys gotta sit down CALMLY and talk about some real serious issues. My husband and I have not always had the marriage we have today, but I can tell you that we improve on our marriage everyday through honesty even when it hurts and trust. 2 components that are essential to any lasting marriage. Do you want to grow old together happily or hating each other?

Do you have a normal sex life? its not normal for him to be watching porn all night, you should be his priority not other women (and yes that's what they are even if its over the Internet). he may not be physically cheating but he's mentally cheating.

either he was a) on a no-strings-attached booty call with someone he met on-line or b)gambling and made a profit so he came back with your money. either way, disappearing at night is not normal - you can think anywhere anytime so why does it have to be done in a car while you are sleeping and why couldn't he tell you about it until you caught him?

i think you are not satisfied with the "what ifs" and need concrete proof of his extra curricular activities, so i suggest watching him like a hawk and taking as much notes as you can then next time you confront him have proof. Heck, you should write down the mileage on the odometer every night if you have to. just don't believe his lies when you already proved otherwise to yourself. GOOD LUCK.

This one sounds kind of fishy. It does seem odd that he would leave in the middle of the night he could of been in need of some time to think. But it sounds like he was doing something and I think the breakfast was a cover up or to kiss your ***. I could not tell you what I think he was doing because I dont understand why he took the money out of your purse only to bring it back? And why on earth if all he needed was time to think why did he not just sit outside or something. I would tell him you do not believe what he is telling you and ask him where the hell he was. I dont know what to say other than I dont believe what he told you.

It could be a problem he had to work out. You need to check your belief in Him more. Mistrust causes more problems than people realize. Either you keep your faith i him or risk losing him. The fact he came home with the same money and did not smell of booze or other stuff is a good sign. Sometimes guys like to isolate themselves and work out decisions. Are there things in your life that might be really bugging him??Cut him a break and let him know You are there to talk things over with and how much You want to be involved in everything he does.

Great question. There is much to be said for intuition and in this case, I would trust your own gut. You already know the answer to the question you posted. With gas prices as high as they are, I cannot imagine anyone driving around for hours just because they can't sleep. They have pills for that problem.

Most women who visit our clinics for STD testing are there because they had an initial strong gut feeling which was later confirmed. Tell him that his choices impact your choices and you choose condoms for the next 90 days.

See if he does it again. check his Cell Phone his Web site History , his email History and so on. I doubt he was driving around for so long , would he needed to get gas. Like someone already said there are lots of woman who like married man, woman always want what they can't have. has he cheated on you before?

Well.....it does sound as if he might have just been driving around. He could not sleep, so he drove. 3am to 7am is a nice time to be on the road, even more so in the summer time. nice and warm, dark, and no traffic. Lots of guys do this.....

Now he could have been doing something else too.....

Your doing the nicely suited issues already. you're putting policies to make him to blame and to blame. you're enforcing punishments for his unwillingness to maintain on with the guidelines. Your chatting with him approximately risky habit.... etc. you have finished this for 8 years. this is time to get extra help. you are able to ought to understand that this is previous you at present. you are able to could desire to truly evaluate some counseling for him, and as a relatives. We, as father and mom, purely be responsive to plenty and might purely do plenty. yet, this is our duty to apply all advise mandatory to enhance to blame, nicely-adjusted, quickly-to-be adults. no count if this is in basic terms too high priced and/or no longer coated with the aid of your coverage... attempt contacting relatives centers and notice in the event that they are in a position to assist. this is an quite short direction from risky habit to habit of any variety - and there is already a relatives historic past. Do each thing you are able to to be sure he does not land up like his delivery mom.

Honestly, you already know what to think, and you are probably right. He decided to act out the porn instead of just watching it. So, now it's up to you to prove it if you want to have peace of mind. He's going to try it again, so be prepared and try to handle it to your satisfaction. His lying won't stop and if pressed, he may change it now & then. Lies are hard to keep up, so you'll know when to let him know that he's not talking to a fool. Let him know what your intentions are if you want to save your marriage, and if he don't listen go thru with them.