Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

How long have you been without a job? It sounds like you are trying to contribute the only way you can. Just try to explain to them that you are doing your best and thats all they can ask for. I would wonder why your boyfriend isn't coming to your defense? Maybe you could share your feelings with him on this matter and he can help mediate the situation between you and his father. Good luck on the interview!

How old are you?, why dont you get a job and find your own place to live?

It will be a lot different when you move alone, you'll feel what it is to have your own place where you can do whatever you feel like...

It's a very sad situation, and you must feel depresive sometimes....but my best advice is to find your own place I'm sure your boyfriend will love you, appreciate you and respect you even more when he sees a responsible woman by his side..

Otherwise if you stay there, as soon as you get a job you will give them money for the rent and stuff and there will be another complain about yourself in a couple of weeks, and you know why?, because girl, you're not part of the family, and eventhough they will demostrate love and appreciation sometimes with yourself it feels like you're there with my son, stealing his love from me , and at the end, she will get pregnat and we will have to deal with another member, and it is already more than enough to deal with the quantity of members that we are right now.

Bottomline girl, you're not there slave to be cooking, cleaning and serving them...dont you think that they're already grown to take care of the most important aspect in their lives , which is the well being of the their home ?

Again my advice , try to move alone, try to find a small but comfortable place where you can live in peace...im sure you'll fall in love your that place once you decorate it however you like and have it how you like...

good luck...

I would imagine you would probably LIKE to be living with

out your boyfriend's relatives, no?

Then perhaps that is what the two of you should be working

towards.

How long can you take his relatives' noise before you feel

you need to shoot one of them? Maybe if you can last long

enough to get a job, you'll be bringing in enough money

(in conjunction with your boyfriend) to MOVE OUT.

If you have to leave now or you WILL kill someone, then

I am wondering what other family options you have (your

own relatives, etc.)

By the way, if you are providing all of the housework and they

are providing ONLY money/board, then you should figure out

how much, in an ideal world, they should be paying you for that

work.

Even at minimum wage (and no, house work should *NOT*

be paid at minimum wage), its worth something. You are

not contributing nothing you are contributing something

whose value CAN be computed.

Of course, if it only takes you an hour a day and they are

sharing it, then you have less of a leg to stand on.

Get a job then get the heck out. Every women needs their independence. These guys are not real men if they're relying on the lady of the house to bring in the dough. They should be taking care of you honey. If you stay, you'll probably end up doing everything for these men. As for your boyfriend...well, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree sweety. You see what his family is like...Do you want that type of a husband and father for your future children? NO! You should be with someone who will bend over backward for you. I say, get it together and get the heck out!

personally i think u should have a word with your bf, father and others to clear the air, tell them that u like your bf, are trying to pitch in but that the 'hints' they are dropping are making u feel uncomfortable, u would love to have a job but it is not your 'fault' that u dont and feel bad about it enough as it is

jobs are goin to become hjarder to find in the economy, not easier and people are going to have settle for a lot less than they have been used to over the last few years, possibly for quite some time to come

u could try getting little jobs like paper rounds n stuff, many people a lot older are now getting paper rounds and these jobs are easier to get

they also can be done in a shorter amount of time so u have just as much free time for yourself, u could walk people dogs for them or help out with gardens as i often find that u can get jobs like this when u are younger as well

if u do well then dont forget u will have to pay tax and keep a record but this will show 'willing' to the grumps in your household

I have the best way to get a job.

What you do is go to a temp agency for office work. Let them place you, and a good portion of those jobs lead to permanent placement.

I got a job a BCBS that way. And if you got a job, you won't be there for them to yell at. The other cool thing about a temp agency is they usually will place you right away. And when you get the job at the company, you don't have to go through the hiring process because the company has to buy out your contract from the agency. In the meantime, spit in their food.

Personally, I think that if you're living with them, it'd be by their invite..

Meaning, if they invited you to live with them, they shouldn't then expect you to all of a sudden start paying them..

Especially if it's your boyfriend that said, hey, come live with me..

Traditionally, the male should be taking care of his girl, if feasible..

I.E... if he has a job and they're all getting a long fine, then they shouldn't be worried whether you have a job or not..

Especially if you volunteer to take care of the house duties, which are hard to keep up with, if everyone in the household is working..

There's nothing wrong with staying at home, if you can afford it... then just use it to keep up with the house-chores...

If they see a problem with it.. then they're probably looking to use you, so that they can have more money for themselves, NOT a good situation...

I would just tell them you have an interview on Monday and it's too bad you don't get paid for being bitched at because you'd be rich! And when you start working STOP doing the housework and washing the dishes-just do your own laundry. It doesnt sound like they appreciate what you do anyway.

I suggest you remind these guys you ARE WORKING, they (as most men) seem to think that is just a woman's way of having fun. So, stop that work and get a job outside the house. You are nothing more than their maid. Let them know, you've been working for them for free, if they'd like you to continue, they can pay up.

Well i believe you should go live with a friend or someones and give you and your boyfriend space when he sees you are trying and making a change things will get better but when he sees you in the house he maybe thinking you are not trying to put any effort but in the end you will prove them all wrong and who knows one day they are going to need you more than they think