if your man loves a women he truly is unable to have, but you know he does. Should you stay with him?

It could be that he loves her, not for her, but what she represents to him. It could also be a case of the "grass is greener" which is so very common. It could be as simple as "he's a dog."

There is no one right answer. What you need to do, is ask yourself why you really love this man, minus his mental infidelity. If you're with him because you have low self-esteem, or are co-dependent, then the issue you raise is irrelevant anyway, because you're with him for all the wrong reasons to begin with.

If you DON'T have low self esteem, and care for him for whatever reason, then you'll need to sit down and have an honest "non-confrontational" conversation with him. Maybe there are things you don't know about each other emotionally.

If he truly cares for you, he'll agree to work through this issue he has.

We all have first loves, loves that have gotten away or didn't love us, and those feelings of want and desire for them never truly completely leave, however, we need to move on and so does he.

If he's not willing to let his love for you become foremost in his life, then you need to consider moving on, regardless of how painful it will be; and find someone who will love you first and foremost.

Peace and good luck...

Hello, You have a problem, you said your live-in loves this married woman- but you didn't mention if he loves YOU? If he loves her & she knows it & they keep talking to each other then something might happen later that's not happening yet. I know of a man & a woman at work who had an adulterous affair & believe me being married doesn't stop some people from hooking up!You know- every relationship will be tested & he has already shown a split loyalty. The greatest honor you can show to someone is to give 100% devotion to that person,guard your heart... because it might get broken. good luck to you ...

You already know the answer, don't you? Personally, I would never be with anyone for whom I am second choice, filler until he can get what he really wants. And if he wants and loves her that much, you can bet text messaging is not all that is going on between them! Plus, ask yourself...why are you checking his text messages?

If he has stopped since you two have been together, then how do you know he still loves her? Talk to him about it. If he does, then I don't think I would stay.

why would he have saved the text messages though if his heart isn't with her? If you know that this will bother you and know he will never fully give you his heart, you are wasting your time.