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How does one deal with a new partner and ex husband?

I have been seperated for 1 1/2 yrs my ex husband just gave me a dozen roses for my birthday, but claims he in no was trying to make waves for me and my new guy. My new guy is pretty ferious.My ex also has to rub it in that we're still "married". We have kids together so I can't just tell him to screw off. Help!

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  • 1 decade ago
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    This is merely a psychological control tactic on your ex's part. Say thanks, but make it clear that it means nothing to you. Give the flowers to your kids to put in their rooms or dump them. It was your ex's way of ticking off your new partner and it worked. Really well! Don't allow him to intrude on your life. Do what you have to do to get along for the kids but you don't have to have any extraneous contact with him. Unless...you want to?

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    This new guy has NO right to be so steamed. This is STILL your husband...and wether you like it or not, you are committing adultry in the eyes of the (Lord) but more immediately the COURT of LAW. Your ex is showing his appreciation for the fact your alive another year to take care of the children he helped make! This new guy that is so pissed off is no good. This is just a taste of the overbearing and jelous nature of that man and it will only get worse the longer you stay with him. Dump the new guy, he obviously has no clue that you had a life before him and if he could will make you forget that you did and all that went with that...ie: your kids too! (don't believe me? just marry him and my words will ring in your ears on your second divorce)

  • 1 decade ago

    Chile', wake up he either wants u back or is trying 2 show new guy he has pull. You need not 2 except anymore flowers or anything else that doesn't pertain 2 the kids from him. Why do u allow ex 2 even rub anything in? Toughen up Chile'!!

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