Question for single men with no children?

I think single women with children may be MORE interested in you than you may think. It's a struggle to raise children alone, even if the children have visitation with their father and the woman gets child support. If she is getting alimony she may be less likely to want to marry because she can have fun with you and ex hubby is paying for her good time! I mean think about it...Why wouldn't a single woman want to marry a single man with no children of his own. Do not try to be a "dad" to her children, that place may already be filled, but it never hurts to be nice to the kids, (but not too nice...because she may think you have other motives to want to be close to her children!)...

Most women really resent it when someone else steps in to discipline their children, so leave that to her unless she asks for your opinion or help, and I would recommend not ever trying to correct the children IF she has not asked for your help, she may really resent that! Remember that it's a package deal, but you should not have to buy the friendship or love of the children (this seldom works out very well anyway)...

Are you able to make babies of your own? Sorry personal question... If you may want a child of your own with this woman, you should let her know that you would like that BEFORE you marry her, she may have all the children that she wants. Like I said, it's a package deal, and I happen to know that step children can either make things very difficult, or can be a real joy. It all depends on how you and the child(ren) get along.

Give it time, spend time with the lady AND the children, be firm but do not think to walk in and be "big daddy"...I guess I am thinking of something like the Brady Bunch...a blended family CAN work, but sometimes you really have to work at it.

If you care deeply for a lady who has children, then let her know, and give it time, get to know the potential wife and step kids, if you do not feel that you can love these kids like they are your very own, then you may need to rethink things. Good luck, while both your happiness and that of the children's mother is important, it's also important what the little ones think and feel about you...Be yourself, and try to be patient, even if the kid may seem bratty at first...it doesn't have to stay that way...I hope whatever you and the children's mother decide is best is best for all concerned.

ruthie

Wow, I'm not a single man, I just wanted to see what ppl put to answer. Well, there it is, just asking a question like that scared all the men away. lol