Can you give some advise??

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I need to break up with my man, but evertime i do it he somehow talks his way back into my life and i care for him so its hard for me to be evil but i cant take it anymore im so tired of all the heartach. Its really hard cause we have lived together for 2 years but latly it just isnt working and i want it to end but i dont want to hurt him more than i have to through this but its time and he just wont except it he tells me that if we end theres nothing left for him here so he would go back to St. Louis, then when i tell him that he should he talks his way back in I have made it very clear that its over but he keeps telling me how much i mean to him and he know that it hurts me to do this to him when he says things like that i have tryed to be nice cause i still care. How do i go about it and show him im serious without hurting him to bad?

Update:

We have tried to work things out but it just ends up going right back to the way things were after a couple of weeks, and i dont love him anymore but i still care for him

4eva-pink · Accepted Answer

Well first of all you should know that there isn't an easy way to tell someone that you're breaking up. So you should just tell him straightly and honestly what you really feel. If you feel nothing, then tell him that there is nothing. You have to be confidant and say it seriously with a serious tone of voice..or he will just try to get back AGAIN. Tell him that you thought about it a lot and it just can't work out.
You must stop taking him back too or he will never leave.
Take care.

.... · Answer

I've been in the same situation and what you need to do is pack your stuff and just move out. Do it when he's not home.. leave him a letter explaining how you feel. This way he can't stop you from leaving but still knows whats going on and doesnt call the cops looking for you. He'd have to accept the fact that your gone. If he looks for you then you  have a problem because he's not in the right state of mind. He needs help. And thats not healthy.. He needs to understand that in order for a relationship to work....the BOTH of you need to be happy and obviously your not.

Anonymous · Answer

if you live together pack some stuff up and find a place to stay for a while. show him you're serious. he doesn't believe you because you take him back everytime. sit him down and tell him you care for him very much but just aren't happy in the relationship anymore but be prepared to leave and stay away until he accepts that it's over

whitebeanner · Answer

Quit worrying about hurting him, that's your first mistake he's using it hold on.  If you want it over sorry to say it but hurt the fool, it may be the only way to make see you are serious.  And stick to your word this time no letting him change it, if this means no contact with him afterwords then so be it.

incognitas8 · Answer

Oh the drama of shackin' up...

You need to get a back-bone, be "evil" (what the hell does that mean anyway if you're in an unhappy situation!), and give him the boot! Juicy gotcha crazy (translation: don't wanna let go of the d***!)...

Get a life (a separate one) and quit whining!

angel · Answer

i'm so sorry dear anyways ARE YOU SURE YOU REALLY WANNA END THINGS WITH HIM? i mean for my own opinion if he doesnt wanna lose you he needs to make some improvement and show that to you. right?

coz this is wrong to every relationship i seen..they think BREAKING UP IS THE ONLY WAY....and later they regret doing it.

well if you guys both love each other TRUST ME YOU COULD WORK THING OUT AND YOU COULD MAKE IT.....AS LONG BOTH OF YOU WILLING TO GIVE AND TAKE.

GOOD LUCK

Anonymous · Answer

Its gonna hurt no matter what, just tell him you no longer can handle the pain and its not worth putting both of you through the hurt

Babygirl · Answer

If he cares for you and you care for him then what's the problem? u should consider yourself lucky rather than trying to break up.

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