I never though I would be divorced?

Honey, he is NEVER going to change. He will continue cheating on you and deliberately hurting you. You need to accept this, and accept that you are worth a lot more than he could ever give you.

Get out there and meet people. You're only missing him because your social life is in the pits. Go to church socials. Join the library club. Volunteer at your daughter's school, and socialize with the other parents.

You don't need your ex (that loser) to define your life. You are way better off without him. You made the appropriate decision (for both you AND your daughters) by getting rid of him. Don't make the mistake of negating that good decision now.

You have PROVED that you can get along without him. Is it possible he's only trying to get back into your life so he can drag you down again?

Take a deep breath honey and relax for a second. You know the answer to what you are asking already. If he cheated and walked out, then came back but only for your girls through CPS, it's not you he wants, it's them. Guard them with your life. Chances are he doesn't want to pay child support.

You don't miss him, you miss the idea of the perfect family you thought you had. You are doing fine without him. It's been two years and little by little you've allowed yourself to move on. Why would you want to put it all in reverse? You deserve better than this and eventually you are going to meet the one who completes your family...but it's not this guy sweetie. No man, who truly loves the mother of his children does this. He's lost his right to be trusted and if he's willing to go to such lengths that he has, there is no telling what he has up his sleeve this time. Take the high road and make the girls a priority. You sound like the only stable parent they have.

If your heart is set on this, then I suggest you try dating him. Don't let him move in, don't let him spend the night...just a date...test the waters...this way, from a safe distance, you'll be able to figure out what exactly he's trying to do. Men aren't as clever as most women and with enough trust, they are often transparent.

RUN!!! There is a reason the relationship disintegrated in the first place. It is rare that going back for seconds actually works(from what I have experienced). I know people do it but I think they are few and far. I think it takes really special people (not saying that you are not!) to be able to go back and sift through all the lies and deceit......and not have the past haunt them in some way. I know when I did it, I second guessed every move. I am "not" one of those special people. Not that I cannot forgive but forget? No you don't forget. Your path is your path and no amount of words or advice will change that. You are probably scared to not take the chance to get back together because you think.....But what if? You are also probably scared to take the chance of going back because you think.....But what if? It is a big decision for sure and will take an enormous amount of strength no matter what decision you make. Put it up to the sky and ask for guidance and listen to your gut. Spend some time in the quiet with yourself and really go deep into your gut and think about it. Good Luck!!!

Let him go.You should value yourself more than that. If he lied on you once what makes you think he won't do it again.He tried to take your kids called CPS and cheated more than once, come on when did you lose yourself.It sounds like you lost love for you.If you can not trust him it not going to work any way. I have been there with the cheating part and he wanted to leave me and the kids to.It hurt for awhile but then I had to remember that i come first and my kids to not him.So pick yourself up and move on, trust you will have a family again just not with him.At this time you have to heal yourself and let him go if it's meant to be you all will get back together and if not you will meet someone who will love you and your kids.But,take it slow and work on you.I hope that I helped because I've been there to. Good luck and GOD bless

Most people going through a divorce, find themselves questioning whether or not to go back to the other person whether it is because they still love them, for the kids, etc. However, you have to remember that when your emotions get involved they can taint your better judgement and leave you thinking of all of the good times you had rather then the reality of the problems that caused to go for a divorce in the first place. This man is not one to be trusted and to expect things to be different on account that you still love him and miss him and because now he seems repentive for his actions is not wise. You were to counseling and he cheated on you several times and then left you and your children to fullfill his own selfish needs. He even had the audacity to start trouble with the CPS. Someone who would even resort to taking your children from you and bring them into your problems is not a man but a complete asshole. I know it can be difficult to rise above those feelings of love and longing but think about what's really best for you and your children. Neither you and especially not children should ever be subjected to the emotional abuse that he has caused. I was married to someone who was emotionally/physically abusive and was a compulsive liar and cheater. He tried to come crawling back after threatening me amongst other horrible acts and I almost gave in with the same reasoning that you had but I kept forcing myself to remember all of the bad despite any good that I was then finding to justify going back. My divorce will be final in a few weeks and I do not regret it one bit despite those times where I do still miss him and wish that he would've changed so that our family could've been together and he could fully appreciate the love that I gave him by reciprocating it with the love that I always deserved. Please don't give up in a moment of weakness to throw yourself back into a life that has and WILL cause you a great deal of pain. You owe it to yourself and your children to stay away from this man and find happiness on your own with the possibility in the future to find a man that will give you the love and respect that you deserve. I wish you the best of luck during this time and please remember not to think with your heart in this situation because right now it is absolutely necessary to detach from the situation and think with your head.

You miss the cheating and the lying and the emotional abuse? Do you, really? I don't believe it. Think long and hard before you decide to get back together with him; he will not change, and you'll be stuck with the same problems as a few years ago. Are you absolutely desperate for a man in your life? Desperation is not a good counselor.

Why would you want to go back to a man who cheated on you,tried to fight for custody, and called CPS on you. I would not miss that man at all I would tell him do not let the door hit you in the ***. You need to go to councelling to try to find out why you would want this man back into your life. You are worth so much more.

Got to councelling together. Whether you do end up getting back together or not, it will still help. There's nothing wrong with loving and missing him. He did some horrible things and he know is, he knows he hurt you. Try the councelling and see what develops from there.

Stay clear of this guy.

He is not worthy of your trust.

To want to take children from their mother and then when unsuccessful, lie to CPS is a major flaw.

You don't miss him. You just don't have anyone else. And, if you go back to him you won't have your children after he finishes wih you.

Dear, how can you miss someone who would treat you and your children in such a shabby manner? Think of it this way, an old adage: Screw me once shame on you, screw me twice shame on me. Do you see where I am going with this. I hope so because if you take this man back you are giving him license to treat you badly again. Then, it will be YOUR fault not his!