a little too old for this?

Excuse me, you are 20 and live with Mommy. Get a job, get a life and move out ON YOUR OWN. Don't move in with someone else you can depend on. If you want to live by your own rules, live in your own place. Your mom deserves to set the rules for her house. Get a roommate if you have to. preferably another female in a similar situation.

You are old enough to make your own decisions, but if you live with your mother, you have to acknowledge her concerns. That might be enough to make you want to move in with your boyfriend, but there is another, much more difficult way to deal with the situation.

Do you know about birth control and disease prevention? Do you realize that some relationships between lovers can be temporary and easy to break? Do you know why your mother is concerned about you? It is not even close to the easiest thing to do, but you should try to talk to your mother and understand that she cares about you. Some people have a very hard time talking about sexual matters, especially in a "parent/child" situation. You aren't a child any more, but your mother will probably have a very hard time accepting that until you are supporting yourself or maybe in a committed relationship with someone who will support and love you as much as your mother always has- i.e. married.

Make sense?

Short version: try to see your mother's point of view and understand that as long as you live in someone else's house, you don't really have full ownership of your life.

Wow I feel like I'm living that situation all over again! I was in your position once and I was told that no matter how much it bothered me that my mom got on my case about going to my boyfriend's house, I still had to respect her rules because I was living in her house. It sounded logical enough and that is what I did. I hated it though. If you want to be able to have your freedom then you need to move out. That's all there is to it. If you are not ready or unable to financially then all you can do is hope that your boyfriend cares enough for you to wait until the day comes and respects your mom's rules too. There is no question about if you are old enough. The point is about living at home still and respect for your mom. It sucks, but sometimes we need to make sacrifices.

I think you are old enough to make your own decisions regarding this. I would suggest that before you make a final decision you think about where things are going to go with this guy. If things are pretty serious and you would consider moving in with him eventually (and he would consider having you do so) then I would be more comfortable with the situation. If not, and you defy your mother, you may wind up in a tight spot if she kicks you out.

You are old enough to make your own decisions but you live in your mother's house so you still have to live under her rules. You are also old enough to live on your own so if it means that much to you, move out of your mothers house. Untill then respect her wishes.

Your 20yrs old you should be able to do what you want, but then again you do live in your mom's house so i guess you do have to go by her rules! The best thing you could do is maybe have a talk with your mom and tell her that it's time to trust you now! Maybe she just needs to trust you~!Good Luck!

If you think you are old enough to make your decisions, then maybe you should find a place of your own. That way you can make all of your decisions. She's probably just being over protective.

there comes a time when during the relationship with our parents we kind of break down to them exactly what the deal is - your mother needs to realize that you are a grown up and it's nice that you are so concerned about your mother's feelings - if you were having your boyfriend staying the night at your mother's house and she was upset with it, then you'd have to abide by her rules, it's her house - but, you are an adult and if you want to stay the night at your boyfriend's house, you should be able to call your mom and let her know that you won't be coming home that night so she doesn't worry - you need to sit down with your mom and let her know that you love her but that you are an adult

I agree that if you have to ask then you are not ready for that step.

Try to sit down with your mom & tell her that you aren't ready to live with him permenately but some times, say twice a week, you are going to spend the night with him so that you can take your relationship one step further and make sure it's what you want. good luck

i think that if you live in your mothers home you live by your mothers rules.....when you are responsible enough to be out on your own you will then be responsible enough to make your own life's decisions....anyway, she's really only watching out for your best interest I'm sure