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Starla_C asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 1 decade ago

If someone who used to be your friend hates you for no reason?

It's too long of a story to get into, but I have a former friend who I still care about. I helped raise her daughter and now that "our" daughter is about to have a baby, my friend has decided to "sever" all ties with me. What did I do and what can I do to get through to my friend?

Update:

Ok, you do need to know more. "S" the daughter, was left to live with me when she was 16 in Arizona when her parents moved to California. She is 26 now. Her relationship with her Mother has never been good and I offered her love and friendship. Her mother gave me legal guardianship and I raised her until she was 18 and then she moved out of our home into her own apartment. Jelously could be an issue, but I've never tried to replace her mother. I demand that "S" respect her mom and give her credit where it is due.

If my only crime in this friendship is loving her daughter, why would she turn her hate to me?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Here's a saying for you that my dad told me when i was young!!!

    "BE CAREFUL WHO YOUR FRIENDS ARE THIS WEEK, BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHO YOUR ENIMIES WILL BE NEXT WEEK."

    I hope this helps you out. Think about it , It's true.

    Sad but true.

  • 1 decade ago

    There's always a reason. You might need to go thru the daughter to get some answers before you talk again to your friend.

    You may have inadvertently said and/or did something that offended your friend, or it could be good ole fashioned jealousy. Are you spending alot of time with the daughter, buying or wanting to buy things your friend can't afford?

    It could be something as simple as your excitement for this pregnancy on your part that's making your friend step back and say "wait a minute, this is my daughter, not hers...

    When you talk to the daughter, ask her questions pertaining more to you and her (like, "do you think I've gotten too involved with your pregnancy", or "have I stepped on anyone's toes with my excitement over your pregnancy")

    If you say things like what's going on with your mother, or why is she mad at me, it could upset the daughter. And, we don't want that in her condition, right?

    Once you pick her brain and get some answers, then you can decide if your "friend" is worth keeping. Hope this helps. Good Luck!

  • JustMe
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    There has to be a reason. Did you ask her ? You think it may be the fact that your calling her daughter, our daughter ? Maybe your getting way too involved in their lives and putting your two cents in when it wasn't asked for. Just a thought.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If you were true friends, you would get mad and then a few days or weeks get over it. I don't know what your problem is, but I have found that it is over with once you set down and open communication with each other.

    Source(s): This is just from my own life I have learned this
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  • 1 decade ago

    if you were true friends

    the bond btw you two would come through.

  • 1 decade ago

    its not your fualt just try to talk to her and see whats wrong.

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