Women, under what conditions would you relocate to be with your mate?

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I think marriage is definitely a must in order for me to leave life as I know it. But I still worry that if I change my life to better fit into my mate's life that I will lose my independence. He is more affluent and owns a home and business in his town. I have a good job but financially, I'm not rolling in "dough". I rent. I would have to withdraw my children from school at some point. How have other women dealt with this kind of situation? FYI, both me and my guy are divorced and in our mid to late 30s. We both have been alone for a while and things are moving kind of fast. We both feel like life is short and we want to share ours with each other.

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Thanks lovecat for that info. I did not know that. I just thought it was cute. No offense to anyone but I'm on that as soon as I'm done typing this.

Amry · Accepted Answer

SLOW IT DOWN.That is the first thing, continue dating try to find another job that you may make dough.Figure it out and see what happens.Do not just pack up your kids and go that will bring a lot of drama and distance in your relationship.

mvngs · Answer

I think your first priority is to your children and pulling them out of their school to follow a man does not seem that you have given much thought to their best interest. While it may sound like fun for them and be okay with the idea you also need to learn that you are first and foremost a mother. Your children will one day leave home and you can move around the world if you like, but for now....STAY PUT!!  It is going to be much harder finding a new job and place to live if this relationship doesn't work out and if it's already moving fast then it may be coming to an end a lot sooner than you think. Date long distance and see how it works. If he truly wants to be with you for the long haul he'll learn to bend in order to please you and do what is best for your children in the long run.

Anonymous · Answer

Why is it always the best deals for men? why? I mean, ,,,what if the relationship doesn't work? You would have to, being emotionally  destroyed, in your middle age, have to look for a job, to help your children to go back,,,and he will be investing in his career, and being able to chose younger women.
The same happens to me, I am still thinking how to protect myself.
What about asking for a permit ion at your job for studding over there something?
Ask him to sign a agreement or something as a compensation for you if something goes wrong, like him cheating, or being someone different, we woman lose our brains when we fall in love

dreamzzz102 · Answer

~If you both are in love then why not!...and if you move in together you will loose your independence alittle..that is what relationships are about when you live with each other you learn to depend on each other for alot of things...if you dont want to depend on anyone for anything then stay where you are..but sharing a life is just that its not a independt thing!~~~~> :o)

♥♥Soon to Be Mrs.F♥♥ · Answer

Marriage, then depends.  Was there better job offer for my mate.  A hnigher pay.  Where would we be moving??

Nicki · Answer

If I had job already waiting for me, because men change their mind, honestly they'll  tell you anything.  When you get there they'll say." We need to sit down talk this over  before jump in to 
anything"..

amandy245 · Answer

if you are happy with this guy and you want to spend your life with him, then go for it. if you are in two separate places, you can't be with him. so go get married and be happy. life is too short to live unhappy.

lovecats · Answer

FYI....you have the gay pride rainbow behind your avatar.

MiaDiva28 · Answer

i'd have to be married.

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