is he more than a friend?

i would say he loves you, it's just, as you said, you've both been through relationships before, and nobody wants to get hurt. It's only been 4 months, just give it some time

Well have you asked him plain out about his feelings towards you??? Have you asked for a commitment. If I were you I would ask him those things. If he says he does not want a commitment, etc. I would let him go. There's got to be a reason why he is not with you, and maybe he is with someone else. You say you see him everyday, however there might be 2 hours in the day that you don't see him and maybe he is with someone else. It is very possible. It doesn't make sense. If he talks about the future as if you guys will be together then why aren't you technically together now??? I think you need to give him an ultimatum, You love him and you are 30 and eventually you may want to get married to someone who loves you. If its not him its someone else. I bet if you ask him for a commitment, ask about his feelings and you don't get the answer you wanted to hear and then you walk away he will be crawling back. Its weird you play hard to get and that's when they crawl right back in

"seeing this guy for 4 months" usually means bf/gf relationship. Its more then friends with benefits if hes going out of his way to be with you and your family he's definatly more then just wanting to be friends and most likely the family does know your sleeping together they just don't see it as a problem since HE IS YOUR BOYFRIEND if he or you were seeing other people then it would be "friends with benefits" but seeing the same person almost daily and nobody else = boyfriend

If your in your 30's you should know that friends with benefits never works out for very long. He should know that He can't be acting like he's your boyfriend but telling you he doesn't love you. You guys are to old for these kinds of games. I would either cut him off or give him an ultimatum. If he really only cares for you as a friend then you shouldn't be having sex with him.

Yes he's more than a friend, but I'd advise you to get out of this "so called" relationship fast. What is the point in sleeping with someone who has no interest in you romantically? You are setting yourself up for SO much heartache here. Quit now, while you're ahead (which honestly, i don't think you are.. he is). If he really likes/cares about you, then he'll persue. Friends with benifits doesn't exist. Don't let yourself pretend that it does.

I really think you two need to sit down and have the "talk" Figure out what you're doing and where things are going. He sounds like a good guy though, so I wouldn't put a relationship out of mind ;) good luck!

It sounds like he doesn't know HOW he feels. If he were just in it for the sex, he wouldn't be going to the lengths he is to have you in his life. Be careful that you aren't hurting yourself by allowing the sex to continue without knowing what the definition of your relationship is -- that can gnaw at you over time. maybe its time he makes a decision ... poop or get off the pot, you know

my opinion.. he might be afraid to get serious even if he does have strong feelings for you ( know anything about his past relationships?). i think just give it some time and dont overwhelm him with the i LOVE YOU stuff. just do what your doing enjoy it. give it some time see what happens.. maybe if you dont always act like you cant live without him he might just come out and tell you how much he needs you

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Its more than a friend it is that he is to afraid to show his feelings to you. He will come around soon believe me i had the same problem to this day. He loves you if he does all that for you.