Should I break up with him or keep trying?

just break up..find another guy

Did he make plans for the two of you "us" or did his plans just not include you (which is how it sounds)

I would be offended if this happened to me however, I would not suggest that you jump to any conclusions without talking to him first.

Guys tend to do things without thinking about how it makes those closest to them feel. My bf does the same thing sometimes but he is getting better about it because I will just tell him how it makes me feel. He's not doing it on purpose and it makes him feel bad to know he has made me feel bad and unless there is really something else going on I would imagine your bf would also feel bad if he knew how his actions made you feel.

People respond by saying you can't change someone. This is so true and you also can't control how others behave. Yet you may be surprised about how he may want to change if he just knew how his behavior was making you feel bad. Even if he wants to change though you can't expect these changes to just happen. Let's say for discussion sake that he is 25 yo. You can't expect him to change habits of 25 years over night no matter how much he wants to.

As long as you keep telling him how you feel when he does certain things and as long as he is willing to listen to you and at least start to show some signs of change then it is probably worth your effort to keep trying.

HHmmm, he sounds pretty self-centred. He might not even realize that he is. There is no point in trying to change him. It nots necessarily what your doing that is making him act this way If your not getting what you want out of the relationship you should leave. Why should you feel stressed out and feel like your not special.

You can't change him. Don't feel sorry for him. You've given him chances before. I know its hard to break up with someone but it sounds like you have to. He has to grow up on his own. Just get back in touch with yourself and do things to improve yourself. And remember your doing these things for yourself not him.

The only way this guy is going to grow up is if you leave him and forget about him.

first off sweetie sex is not the answer to you relationship problems i dont care if yall have been dating for 5 years or whatever but thats not the answer, it sounds like you are confused you dont know if you wanna be mad or not ive been there before you have to take time out and think. what went wrong he made plans for the two of you while have sex yes i would be mad because that is an intimate time for the two of you i would have stopped him in the middle of sex and told him how i felt thats what you need to do relationships dont work without communication ok sweetie

That was your wake up call and hopefully you will take it.

He is rude and disregards your feelings.

You have every right to be angry.

You tried to discuss things with him and that did not help.

Maybe you can tell him that it is over in a message on his voicemail.

That is the only thing he is attentive to.

Girlfriend if he checked his messages immediately after sex, he need to be put in the past tense version of your life. Don't be upset for too long, you have the rest of your life to live WITHOUT HIM. No woman needs "slam bam thank you ma am" in her life. (I hope you used protection).

Communication is very important. If you love him, and can't see life without him, try and work it out. If he is not treating you the way you want to be treated and he doesn't change, you should move on.

Take a deep breath and then exhale, you allowed him to go and that was a good move.

Now take another - and realise you know what's good for you, and what you want from a relationship. and I'm sure it's not someone as insensitive as he appears to be by his actions.

On your next breath ... you will realise you deserve better, than what he is offering.

there is something missing from him...its called depth....I would say perhaps that marriage counselling is in order if you want to save this..

he sounds like he is just for himself

you should have never told him to go...but since you did you must leave it.

God bless

break up hes probably just using you to get some

He got a piece of a.s.s and that is all he wanted and that's all you are for to him so either be happy being his supply or leave.