HELP please?

Hmmm... this is a real tough call.

First of all, think about all the good times with your husband. Preferably when you were young and all about love. Then think about the good and bad times after you have been married for a while. If you see yourself as an unhappy woman during the after-marriage period, I suggest you to move away from him. Why spend your time arguing with a big old lump?

But before you can just decide to go with Ted, think about how he will be as a husband. Not just as a friend, but as a husband. Does he have a stable job, does he really care for you (or does he just not like your husband?), and would he be a good father (if you want kids)?

This is a tough call, but think it over a lot. This decision could affect your lifetime. Try even living with Ted for a month, and talk to your husband about the changes that he'll make for you. And decide if you think that he will keep those promises or not. Good luck!

I don't think Ted can be better if he divorces because he want to marry you. There have to be a reason for him to decide divorcing. It is not a reason if it is because of you; and because you have seperated with your husband for 4 months. We live in a world things happen occasionally. He loves you because you are now available. No. The love can hardly be long lasting.

Why you said, Ted would be good for you? How is he different from your husband? Is there more positive things about him than your husband who you have history with? You have to weigh both the good and bad things about them. Plus, you're just separated not divorce. Is there kids involve? It's not easy. Stick to your husband. He plans to reconcile. Don't fall into divorce statistics rates- are high.

You have a husband and you are just seperated, you need to see how things could be if you both went to counsling first. Try to work on your marriage first before hurting someone else's. Even though you don't mean to. B/c if that happens their is more people involved and hurt. Try to work things out with your husband and if it doesn't work then talk to the other guy and see what happens. Good Luck!

I dont have much respect for anyone who calls their relationship "open", especially if they are married, thats just wrong.

If your husband wants to reconcile, you should do the same, if you say you love him, but, the first thing you need to do is get out of that house right away, if you dont, you will be causing problems for Teds wife, besides ill feelings....

you said he's married. why would you want to take him away from his wife on a whim that may or may not work out for the two of you. open relationship or not, if the guy you are referring to is in deed married i don't think it's a good idea. you should stay away from that and take things slowly with your husband first. and if things don't work out for the two of you at least seek out single men.

What is your opinion of a man that cheats on his wife?

Could you ever really trust a man that cheats on his wife?

I am not sure, but I think your answers to the above questions might help you with your decision.

Flee to your husband. A man willing to work on a marriage is worth five dozen men who would cheat on their marriage. Ted will do to you what he is eager to do to his wife. Why let him repeat himself?

Yea, get out of their house before you break up their happy home too! For God sake, haven't you got any integrity any morals? What are you thinking? Your husband is trying to reconcile, and you're trying to screw your "friends?" With friends like you, who needs enemies? Knock it off, or you're headed for big trouble!

You've been separated for 4 months......How long have you been married? You need to seek help from a professional. I dont believe at this point you know what you're feeling.