Are women less discriminating about looks than men?

I am not as forgiving as some when it comes to what I look for in a man. But I'm even harder on keeping up myself, How can someone who doesn't even keep up themselves look for someone who is so great when they need so much work. Call me vain but I like to look good and have someone who looks good as well.

To be honest I've met lots of larger guys who are total ladies-man types. They're just funny, fun to be around and know how to have a good time. they give off a lot of confidence. Same goes for women, I know lots of larger women who get way more action than their skinny, but personality-less friends.

Yes, society today DOES place a huge emphasis on looks, and in the past all you had to be was a decent man who could provide for a woman and voila! You've got yourself a wife.

Anyway, like I said, if you are having trouble meeting someone, and you aren't planning on losing the weight, it's all about being confident, fun to be around. And avoid bashing yourself, (saying you're fat, ugly, worthless, etc) or coming off as desperate, because those are definitely two of the most awkward things from a woman's perspective. I mean... what do you say to that?

I hope this helps in some way, and that things go well for you!

I DO think the women are becoming (sadly) more concerned with looks that the person..BUT...I still think that men do that far (far far) more than women do..on the whole.

As far as dating people who are heavy..(and I'm talking real heavy - not just 20 lbs or so)...My only problem with that is: That they will have health issues because of it (more often than naught)..and...if they don't care enough about themselves to lose the weight to get healthy..then how much are they going to be able to offer or care about another person. They either don't care OR they have their own emotional reasons why...and if they do, that needs to be dealt with first before they can offer themselves to another. Now I KNOW I'm speaking in generalities here - some folks are heavy because of health reasons and not because of over-eating..but the majority?..it's because of over-eating. I wouldn't date anyone on drugs...and food is a drug too when you are over-eating...both normally are symptoms of more deep-rooted problems...and you can't go into a relationship like that and expect it to work (too often). The same goes for those who are too thin...You need to respect yourself and others by being the best person you can be and healthy both physically and emotionally yourself before you can be anything for someone else.

I've observed many couples myself and they really are a mixed bag. Two facts about relationships though: Like finds like. The matching theory is generally that people find people who are in a similar location, similar looks, similar income, similar religious beliefs, similar morals. Fact 2: Men marry up and women marry down. Of course there are exceptions and we may see a change in trends but these have been well documented for a long time.

They have to be, either that or there's a lot of women who shouldn't be driving because their vision is so bad.

I had a gay guy proposition me a while back, but that is the last thing in my interest. He asked, "haven't you ever looked at a man" and desired him? I said, "No, I find men are so ugly, it astounds me that the human race even exists--I'm still amazed that my wife looks at me and seems to like it." I don't know what the women folk like about the looks of men, but I'm glad they do.

The other way, is obviously different. In my office I often use a 'backhand complement' about some women being "easy to look at."

WELL HUSKY IS KINDA NICE. LIKE IF THE GUY HAS LIKE A WHOLE BUNCH OF ROLES. OR LIKE HE JIGGLES. THEN I WOULD SAY I WOULD RATHER STICK WITH THE GUY I AM WIHT NOW. HE'S NOT FAT AT ALL HE HAS A TINY LITTLE BELLY. BUT HE IS STRONG AND MUSCULAR TOO. HE MAKES U FEEL PROTECTED. ALSO IF A GUY WHO IS A LITTLE BIT OVERWEIGHT HAS A NICE FACE. THAT CAN DO A LOT. I DON'T THINK WE ARE TO CAUGHT UP WITH GUYS LOOKS THOUGH. SEE I LIKE GUYS THAT MOST GIRLS WOULD PROBABLY CONSIDER AVERAGE OR MAYBE EVEN UGLY. BUT WHAT I ALWAYS FIND HAPPENING IS THAT I LIKE THE GUYS PERSONALITY FIRST AND THEN THEIR OUTSIDE JUST BECOMES HOT TO ME. ALTHOUGH THE GUY I'M WITH NOW IS UNIVERSALLY HOT TO MOST. I MEAN US GIRLS KNOW IF WE WANT A HOT GUY WE ARE GONNA HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THEIR JERKINESS AND SOMEWHAT IMMATURITY SOMETIMES. I KNOW I WS KINDA INDECISIVE BUT BASICALLY IF YOU ARE LIKE OBESE WELL NO MOST GIRLS ARENT GONNA JUMP ON YOU. BUT IF YOU ARE A LITTLE HUSKY A LITTLE FAT AND HAVE A GOOD PERSONALITY. THEN GIRLS WILL COME.

I think that you are correct. Woman (nowadays) are more into guys looks, that's why so many woman are getting hurt in there relationships and cant trust the next guy that comes alone; because most of the "Hot" guys know that they are hot and treat woman like crap. if we as woman would look into a man's heart and soul to find our true love and not at his b u t t, maybe we would be happier creatures....right?

i think ladies are less picky because if a gut has a little gut or whatever he can still look good all dressed up properly and we can work with it. Girls' clothes are much more revealing and leave less to work with... but a lot of girls now a days are looking for abercrombie models and soap stars... they'll grow up though.

Some are, some arent...but I agree it does seem that it is increasingly happening that women are almost as descriminative as men are as far as looks go...which was not the case at all about 5 years ago.

i think we believe it is half and half. we want a real guy who has a personality but we also hope for a fairly attractive guy. But there have been tests that say that we look more for a good personality,smarts,and sense of humor. so there's hope.

btw im kinda big too so i'd go for about anything nice