Has he cheated on you?

I found out last april that my husband had a three year affair , and yes , the pain was unreal, I cryed for months , I felt like the dumbest person on earth because I was the last to know about it, a person goes through so many stages after they have been cheated on , my first was hurt and pain and then came complete sadness and then it was pure hate, it was like a death to me and I was morning, but I have come along way since I found out, oohh I still feel the hurt but its getting better, I am trying so hard to move on but some days I just want to pack up and leave , I truly dont know if a person can ever really trust again after that happens, my husband has said he was sorry and would never do it again but if you only knew all the story behind his affair your head would spin,but it would take me days to write it all, so I guess when you said that a person must have a strong will I think your right , and I hope you never go through it,

Has a husband cheated on me, what shall I do? I don't know what I would really do, but if it's such a big thing, like philandering, et al. i let go of the marriage and free the guy. Why stick to somone who can't stick with you... But f the marraige seems worth savin' or if I really love the guy, it might mean I need to re-evaluate myself and see where I get wrong. Sometimes, married women forget to see the picture, or has in some way or another neglected something in the marriage, or to their husbands; and howevr small that thing is, it has a big effect on the marraige-thing.

but anyway, i'm not married, so being logical about this is the least that I should be concerned about hehehe LOL.

Well marriage today is not what it was a century ago. I figure the stay together rate will be around 25 percent in 25 years. It's too easy to get married and too easy to get divorced. People don't see it as much of a big deal anymore. I would say if you stayed with a cheater you may as well give them a permission slip to continue cheating on you, because they got over once, why not go for it again. The real issue there, however, is why is he/she cheating?

I recently found out that before we were married that my husband cheated on me and it hurted me very bad even though it was five years ago. I felt like it happened to me yesterday. I know that me forgiving him will be a long and diffcult process but I want my marriage to work and I know that he feels the same. I really believe that this was a one time thing and that he is truly sorry for what he is putting me through. But please belive me if this ever happens again love will not be strong enough to keep this marriage together

I don't know, cuz I'm only 15. But when I become someone's husband in 11 or so years, i know I would never cheat.. If she cheated, I would give her a second chance, but as soon as she blows that second, then she's done. Its soooo important for couples to stay committed. Attacking marriages has been on Satan's agenda for a long time.

There is no way anyone can stay with a cheating spouse today because of the prevalence of STDs. Cheating can literally be a life and death matter. I think people who stay with cheaters think that they can't do any better. I stayed with my cheating husband because I didn't know about it until after I divorced him for being a verbally abusive loser. You can bet if I had found out sooner I would have left a lot sooner.

If you ever worry that the person who you're going to be with will cheat on you you should dump him. Marriage is based on trust. Some of us guys are actually worth being with. I don't know what women do, but if my wife cheated on me I'd divorce her. I'm not married, but I know when I do get married she'll never cheat on me. I'm really good at spotting a liar.

I had a girlfriend that cheated on me and never told me about it. She had this secret for over 3 years and stay in a relationship with the other guy for over a year. I started to notice thing about her, like she was not at home when i called (I was at work). When I came home the toilet seat up. Then we went out with some friends and started drinking. When she drinks she talks in her sleep. That's how I found out. We stood together for about 2 more years and I left her when I came home from work early and found a use condom floating in the toilet. That day I pack my bags and left. She did admitted to cheating about 6 months after I left. I never did go back to her.

my hubby then 33 cheated twice on me with my then babysitter 17 i am still with him but there is no love nor trust there anymore and i consider from the time that he did this and then lied to me for 6 year that that is the point in which my marriage was over and we live together more just like friends

I was gone the second I found out. He was horrified. He was sure I would take him back. I did a midnight move and left. I never spoke to him again, just the lawyers talked. He showed up at my work and our mutual friends and begged me back. When he realized it was a no-go, he tried to take his life. That was when I knew I had made the right decision. Thank god we didn't have any kids.