My boyfriend sent me a text message saying he had a big family fight and is very upset and not to call him.?

Hey am sorry about that. You dont need any man who's family can influence your relationship. Whatever the arguement was about it should not make him behave like that if he trully loves you.

He is just using small talk as excuses for not wanting your call. He needs to be matured about it. You dont have any problem. You called because you love him. There nothing wrong with that but now you have no need calling the scum anymore. Move on cause there is a brighter horizon out there.

I understand that you were concerned about him, but calling him after he asked you not to was wrong. For whatever his reasons, good or bad, he was asking you to do something for him. You disregarded his feelings, even tho your heart was in the right place. As hard as it may be, a person has to respect the fact that their partner needs some space, and give that to them. It helps to build on the trust and love that you have for each other. You need to completely apologize to him and let his aunt know that you are sorry also. In this case, you were wrong, and if you are wanting to patch things up, you are going to have to admit that. After that, respect his wishes, even if its something you don't agree on. If you don't agree with it, the next time you two do talk, let him know how you felt. I think you would get further that way.

Hanging up a phone without saying goodbye is always wrong. Can you e-mail him? Just let him know that you were concerned about him and that's why you reacted that way. If he had a fight with his family, he doesn't need another fight with you. What he needs now is love and understanding. I know it's very hard for you to just wait, but if you care for him, you will.

I see that some people have answered that they think he has a crush on you, but honestly I think you have a crush on him. You a painting the story one way, but I am sure he would tell a different story. Take some time to reflect on that. He probably argues with everyone and are focusing on what he does with you because you want him to be obsessed with you. Remember that if someone is bothering you, you can always leave the room. p.s. why are you reading your sisters text messages?

If you've been with him for five years, why in the heck would he tell you not to call when he is stressed? That should be the time when he wants and needs you. I would suspect he is up to something, especially since he wouldn't talk when you did call. I would call him on this bs! He has no right to be angry at you. Often, guilt makes a person get defensive and try to turn the blame on the other party.

Its sounds like he is using a family fight as an excuse not to speak to you for some reason, maybe I'm wrong, but there is no reason to apologize for being concerned, it is a relationship of 5 years and he should be able talk to you about anything, including family problems.

Time heals all wounds. But maybe he is also lying. Wait it out, and get on with your life. Meet others who can give you positive support, and hang with happy people. If there are 'fights' in this family, do you want to be in the ring with them???

Fighting is wrong. Communication is right. If he's not doing that, he and his family could use some basic therapy. Be a friend if he calls, but watch out for #1..YOU!!!

I think you were in the wrong a little first of all i know what its like to be in an all out brawl with the fam and someone call my phone it just fuels the fire but if you were really concerned and not just checking to see if he was lying then why did you just text him back and say hey is everything ok call me when you get a chance and i bet things wouldnt have ended the way they did, but its over and you cant change what happened so just talk to him. good luck hun

No I don't think you were wrong, in fact it was insensitive of his aunt to treat you that way and lie about him! How is it her business? Also insensitive of your boyfriend to ask that of you...if you've been together 5 years, a day should be sufficient "space" time and after that, I think couples should work out problems together..imo.

She & he should apologize to you, if any are in order.

yes! Why do people always want to make you talk after you tell them that now is a bad time. You should have listened and let him work it out. Apologize if you want to keep your man. Because it's going to eat at him and it's not worth loosing the one you love