found nude and explicit photos on my wifes cell phone was this an over-reaction?

Something is real wrong. (start a separate bank account and hide a bit of money away. Get a lawyer. See a counselor, alone, if you wish, but best to just start protecting whatever assets you have.

She's probably alcoholic, so slowing down the drinking isn't going to help. It's stop or nothing for most (22 yr. sober here).

Separate as soon as possible, hopefully getting her to move out, but let your attorney advise you.

Men don't like to be the first to go to the lawyer, but PLEASE do, she has options that can ruin you financially for life if you don't prepare, and her lady friends will be advising her.

You don't need for us to call her names, but she's on a downward spiral, and you need out.

Reading between the lines here, I suspect that you are the problem. You say you vehemently suggested she exercise and then you say that you work very hard to stay fit. So my thoughts are that you have given your wife a negative view of her body by telling her she is out of shape, maybe you tell her she is too fat, and that she needs to shape up. She is sending nude photos of herself to other men to see if they agree that she is out of shape. She needs some positive reinforcement and she is not getting that from you. Try telling her that you love her the way she is, but if she wants to change you will help. Try telling her she is beautiful and if you can not do that, then you are definitely the problem. Fix it before she goes farther and finds a man to tell her she is beautiful in person instead of over the computer of cell phone.

So what exactly are you asking?? You aren't sure what to do?? Umm, do you like this sort of thing? No? Then what would the question be...do we know a good lawyer to get a divorce? Cuz if you stick around after that, you're a sucker! As someone once said...there's a sucker born every minute! Don't let it be you!

im sorry that your life is in this state of catastrofy. it sounds like you are a good guy. but i have to ask myself this question, how loving is your relationship. how hard are you on her about her appearance ? sometimes guys arent very careful on how they word things and it comes out as harsh critisism.

instead of saying you look like you gained some weight say... for example she may have worn a dress when you first met her that just dont fit her now. say i havent seen you wear that dress in a long time, you looked so beautiful in it. shell realize herself that she has let herself go and hopefully she is smart enough to do something. no matter what the case is you get more responce from tact and kindness than you do from negativity.

also its sad because shes lost. you are her husband. you must have thought she was beautiful when you married her so what has changed?are you so caught up in the flaws and perfection that she has no room for acceptance? she doesnt think you find her attractive anymore so shes looking for acceptance elswhere. i hope its not too late to bring back the wife you fell in love with but for some reason i can't help but feel that you may have had a hand in the way things have turned out but if it wasnt you then it had to be another man of stong influence to turn her this way, but i don't see you as the type of guy to marry an out of control alky.

if you want to save this marriage you are going to have to work your butt off to bring back the woman you love.it take 100 attaboys to correct one insult.

i dont know you so i dont want you to think that im attacing you because she could be judt an out of control @$#$%$% who doesnt give a rats @%$ about anyone but herself. only you know her heart. if shes just a vicious %$%$^&%# then divorce her. but if she is a lost soul and you want who she used to be then its up to you to bring her back. if the relationship is too far gone then it may be time to start over. it all up to you.

I don't blame you for being upset with her! You have every right to be upset! I hope she is not having sex with anyone else just to get their opinion! Your opinion should be all that matters! Let her decide on what to do concerning exercise! As for the rest I can't believe that you put up with that!

Sounds like she's got a problem. Poor self-image, not sexy enough. Maybe you could start being more seductive play with her. Maybe she's just going through a porn-stage. Maybe talk to a therapist about it. Just go to Google or Yahoo. Type in--woman has poor self-image, where' s help. !

You had every right to react the way you did. She definitely has a image problem but don't accept that behavior.

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Start looking for another woman!!! This one won't be there long even if for some strange reason you want you. If you are ok with sharing her then enjoy it while you can.

Is she goin through a mid lif crisis?