Long distance boyfriend!! LOVE or HATE i dont know?

I've been with my husband long distance for 5 years.

Let me start from the beginning.

He and I met online about 8 years ago (we weren't looking. we just met on a chat). We got together 5 years ago and engaged three years ago. We just got married in June and he still lives in another country. We're working on the visa to bring him here.

It's not easy. It never will be easy. But the first year is the hardest. You either learn to deal with it or you break up.

He and I have dealt with it by talking every single night. Even if it's only five minutes. Generally we stay on the phone for at least an hour.

Yes, it costs money. It costs time. And we'd both love so much just to go on a date. We've been travelling back and forth for 5 years.

I missed being by his side during Hurricane Katrina. I missed being by his side through deaths in his family. Through problems with the friends that are close enough to him to be his brothers.

He missed my mother's death. He missed my car accident. He missed my ****** of a brother in law.

We've missed alot of each others lives. But we've been there as best we can with the distance between us. Sometimes it's meant an emergency trip where we spend thousands of dollars to see each other.

But that's life. And I think he's worth it. He's the single most wonderful thing that's ever happened to me. He's my dream man.

He's no Brad Pitt. He's overweight. He gets loud when he's around the guys. But he's just simply amazing. He's loving. He's wonderful. He's everything I could possibly want in a man.

So I'm willing to just deal with it. And so is he.

You have to decide... are you willing to put in the time and the energy? Is he worth it? Or are you willing to just give up because things are a little tough?

Because, trust me, they can and will get tougher.

I was in the same situation a few months ago and felt the same way you feel. I felt he was cheating and though I didn't know for sure I broke up with him because I couldn't stand feeling that way. But I found out later that there was someone else in the picture. So if you're feeling like this you really should talk to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him to be honest with you. Long distance relationships are very hard.

Well if the long distance guy is such a jerk, you should leave him. I am in a long distance relationship, but not TOO long, and we are hapily together, and able to see eachother often. Your "boyfriend" is only like that because he is insecure, as he is afraid you will cheat on him. Really what you should do is instead of lying to him, you should just say, this whole thing isn't working out.

Long distance relationships do not tend to work. We need the touch of skin, the scent of each other, the daily or at least weekly feeling of intense intimacy. Do not settle for less in life. Maybe you think that is the only kind of relationship you can have. Perhaps it is. But be prepared for that separation anxiety that is built-in to this kind of relationship.

If the question is longer than a few sentences, it isn't a question, it's a novela. Not worth the points to read. I'll take the 2 and leave the rest for the others.

rather than tell us tell him -- yes the relationship may be cooling it may also be reaching a new level of greater intimacy and togetherness --- you will only find out by talking to him -- and trust him

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You answered your own question. It's not working for you. Tell him like you told us. He may still want to be your friend.

Get a grip drama queen

maybe you should tell him everything you just asked us ask him how he feels maybe its over maybe its not maybe you should try to spend more time with him on the weekends if its not too far