Please....only girls.?

Clean break is the only way.

If she's still contacting you and you want to talk to her, your relationship isn't over. What's most important is your sanity.

I've been here before and anger is usually what works for me. I don't give them any reason to want to talk to me because I totally act like I don't want to be talked to. I'm sure there's probably some nice warm and fuzzy way to handle it but when I want out I just want space. Like I think they moved to another planet kind of space. There's always the pick a fight method but in reality if you are just clear that you're not ready to talk and then don't respond, you're sending a definite message.

What you need to do is to realize how much you're feeding into the situation. And having a backup isn't safer for you, it also puts the third party into an unhappy position. Stand on your own two feet. Only by having some time alone will you really realize how you get yourself into relationships that are unsatisfying.

It sounds like your ex has a good case of "I want what I can't have". She's playing games with your head and heart as well as her own. She most likely just feels like even if the relationship didn't work out she still wants to make sure you care about her. Its selfish and women do it a lot! Stop talking to her. Let your heart heal and find a woman that treats you right!

i had a boyfried just like that. you know that saying "to want your cake and eat it too" well that is what is going on. she wants you at her disposal but doesnt want to make any comitments..so she can do whatever she wants without repercussions. and even if she geniunely wants to be friends, you are obviously not there yet. you would be doing youself a disservice by allowing this to continue. so call her up and nicely say please stop contacting me. then start having some fun..and keep busy.

being single is the best time to work on yourself and then in the next relationship you will be alot wiser.

i'm in the same situation. i'm trying to keep in touch w/ my ex bf and i never hear frolm him. he has a new girl. and i miss him so much. i regret breaking up w/ him so much. but he wont give me the time of day. he changed so much after we broke up. and i relized to lait that he was the best thing that ever happend to me. but i totaly blew it. i wish i could have a second chance. it's not like i did anything that made me a bad gf. i loved to talk and spend time w/ him, i never cheated or lied. but i didn't even have a reson to break up w/ him. i feel awful.

if u want to talk more email me @ pinklady2141@yahoo.com

i'm willing to talk to u. i don't give out my email to just anyone on this thing.

i have been thru that with almost every guy i dated. and i didnt talk or have anyhting to do with them for a while until i felt i was ready. but if it hurts tell her that you need time for yourself to figure things out and to make yourself happy. and do anything at all to occupy you mind and you time.Good luck/ I hope you work something out.

yeah i know what you mean she just realized she lost something good,she probably misses your attention because she has no one else to give it to her. but trust me when she finds someone she will stop calling again im telling you from experience eventhough she might not realize it shes messing with your head..................... time heals all wounds glad to help out