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KT
Lv 7

my ex wants me back should i be flattered or pissed?

she cheated on me and the guy dumped her once i was out of the picture and he had to deal with her full time..

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
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    You'd be crazy as hell to be flattered and take her back. I've been a counselor for 20+ years, now retired, and I've seen that scenario more times than I like to remember, and I've always been "professional" and said it "nicely", but, as I once felt necessary to do with a male client of mine who's wife was having an affair on him, I became blunt with him just in case he couldn't see "the-writing-on-the-wall". Don't be a rag doll! Dump her and move on. You deserve better. God Bless you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Trust was lost .You must think about from an underwriters perspective. Is the frequency high for another argument to happen often. Will you be happy in the relationship if you go back and fell emotionally secure knowing your lose exposure with the risk of her cheating. I'd say talk it over with her if your considering. The ball is in your court. "Make up sex is the best sex!" But be sure your not just a temporay rebound. You too can always be friends instead

    Source(s): Sinfield show
  • LibraT
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    You can be flattered, and you can gloat too! lol Look who came back to WHO? :-p Nothin but good ole karma. She dumped you for a guy, and now she wants you back? Tell her that you're not interested...unless you are (which I hope not). The only thing that happened is, she doesn't want to be alone, so she's now come back to you to fill the void. Just remember, if she did it once, she's likely to do it again. Would you really wanna be with someone that would leave you for another guy, and then come back when he's gone? Hopefully not. So enjoy the flattery, and gloat as much as you want, but make sure you do both of those, as you tell her to take a hike! ;-)

  • 1 decade ago

    I think you should be pissed because if she really loves you, she should not cheat on you in the first place. Ask her what is her true intention towards you. determine if she still flirts with other guys. But if you really found out that she had changed for the better and really loves you and you love her back, why not reconcile?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Be pissed! and don't take her back! my ex bf, did the exact same thing, almost to me!, he cheated on me so i dumped him, then he broke up with the girl, and started callin me, emailing me, and IMing me, asking to go back out with him! I said forget it, u put me through hell, i'm not gonna let u do it again! I would never trust and ex!!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Be pissed. She's just going to cheat again. Why take that chance? There are plenty o' fish in the sea.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    do you want to take her back is the question? If so do what your heart tell you

    but if you do take her back let her know what you going to stand for and what you not going to stand for other words stand your grounds. also let her know that it a trust factor between you her and until you feel you can trust her fully again there may question ask.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Remember that song from years back by Travis Tritt.

    " Here's a quarter call someone who cares" that's your answer...

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You should get his phone number and call him and tell him thanks for doing you a favor but also remind him to take the trash out to the curb so someone can carry it away.Your better off without the problem.

  • 1 decade ago

    You should be flattered but, don't take her back she cheated on you how can you trust her?

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