does anyone know where i can find a free dcoder for windows media player?

Try K-Lite Codec Pack http://www.filehippo.com/download_klite_codec_pack

K-Lite Codec Pack is a collection of codecs and related tools. Codecs are required to encode and/or decode (play) audio and video. It is designed as a user-friendly solution for playing all your movie files.

Some of the Features of K-Lite Codec Pack Full Version:

- Media Player Classic [version 6.4.8.4]

- DivX Pro [version 5.2.1]

- XviD [Version 1.0.3 build 2004-12-20]

- 3ivX Pro [version D4 4.5.1]

- Windows Media 9 VCM [version 9.0.1.369]

- On2 VP3 [version 3.2.6.1]

- On2 VP6 [version 6.4.2.0]

- Ligos Indeo XP [version 5.2820.15.58]

- Intel Indeo [version 4.51.16.2]

- Intel Indeo [version 3.24.15.03]

- Intel I.263 [version 2.55.1.16]

- huffyuv [version 2.1.1 CCE Patch 0.2.5]

- MS MPEG-4 [version 4.1.0.3927]

- DivX ;) MPEG-4 Low and Fast motion [version 4.1.0.3927]

- Cyberlink DVD decoder [version 6.0.0.1417]

- Elecard MPEG-2 demuxer [version 2.0.84.30429]

- MainConcept MPEG-2 demuxer [version 1.0.0.54]

- Ligos MPEG-2 demuxer [version 4.0.0.77]

- Ligos MPEG-2 decoder [version 4.0.0.77]

- Cyberlink MPEG-2 decoder [version 6.0.0.1402]

- MainConcept MPEG-2 decoder [version 1.0.0.56]

- Fraunhofer MP3 DirectShow decoder [version 1.9.0.311]

- AC3 DirectShow decoder [version 0.70b mod]

- AC3 ACM decoder [version 0.8]

- Vorbis DirectShow decoder (CoreVorbis) [version 1.0]

- AAC DirectShow decoder (CoreAAC) [version 1.0b9]

- AAC DirectShow (3ivX Pro) [version D4 4.5.1]

- VobSubStrip [version 0.11]

- GraphEdit [build 011008]

- AVI Fixed [version 2.0b1]

- FourCC Changer

- Bitrate Calculator