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How come it hurts her to have sex?

No matter which way we have sex it hurts her. I am not a monster down there, but she is always in pain. What could possibly be the problem?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    If she was recently a virgin it can hurt at first this is normal. It can hurt up to 6 months sometimes up to a year. Give her sometime go easy. It will be ok

  • 1 decade ago

    If she isnt relaxed then she'll tense up an it would hurt her. If there isn't enough lubrication it can hurt. Do you do anything to get her going before you stick it in? If not then you need to. If she is excited she will be relaxed and lubricated.

    If none of these things are it maybe she is allergic to the latex of the condoms?? That could cause irritation and be painful for her.

    Maybe the position. Use a position that she has control of...like her on top. That way she can control the depth of penetration.

    She could consult her gyno also. They may have suggestions.

    Good luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    I have pain every single time I have sexual intercourse. It doesn't matter the size, big small fat skinny, or position, and it could very well be a medical problem. There are a few easy to find info on online, including endometriosis (sp?). I believe I have it and my sister does, as well. There could be other symptoms she experiences and doens't realize they are related, such as painful cramps during her period. I would suggest start looking online about painful intercourse, it's amazing how much info there is on that alone, and of course, going to the doctor. It's NOT normal and yes, she may have to deal with painful intercourse forever, but knowing that it IS a medical problem helps with the emotional pain that comes with it.

  • 1 decade ago

    There are a couple of medical conditions that can cause this, she needs to get checked out by a doctor.

    I'm assuming you are taking plenty of time, and making sure she is ready. To rule out any possibility of that, try using some lubrication next time. If that doesn't help, she needs medical treatment.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    She may have lots of things going on including an infection or some minor rips and tears etc. She needs to see the doc and get this checked out. Do not try to have sex with her until she gets this checked out at the docs office.

  • 1 decade ago

    She may just have a smaller set or tighter vagina. Try using LOTS of lube and taking it verrrry slowly. Try and stimulate her manually why you are doing this. If she's still in pain, I would say consult a gyno.

  • 1 decade ago

    It could be two reasons really. Either she isn't completely relaxed (making her tense, so it hurts when you enter) or something is wrong. Either way, it wouldn't hurt for her to visit the gynecologist.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Tell her to go have a pap smear done. It could be endometriosis. It can be serious stuff if she doesn't get a check up right away.

  • 1 decade ago

    first of all u must consult gyenc. spl. and the other thing is that her vaginal cavity/tube appears to be tight enough and also not getting required lubrication from inside

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    That's sweet of you to be concerned about ur partner. Maybe she isn't relaxed enough and you might want to try to be more gentler.

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