What to wear for a formal lunch with relatives?

Call the restaurant and ask how their patrons typically dress for luncheons. The more upscale the place, the more subtle your makeup and accessories. Sounds like you are on the right track. If you wear a suit, try not to look like a sales representative. Wear something elegant that you feel comfortable and natural in. Minimal makeup and a simple jewelry is always right for a daytime engagement. A light crisp fragrance is the icing on the cake. Save the more dramatic trappings for evening.

If you wear a skirt, you will probably cover the bases just fine. Stay with the natural makeup because of the early hour for the luncheon. Heavy makeup is for evening wear only. If you feel plain, add some nice jewelry to make you look finished.

Wearing a light lipstick and earrings will help you look finished no matter what look you go for. If they are the type of relative that is more interested in checking out what you have over visiting with you, then make sure you pick out one hot trend for the season and use it. Hopefully they are not like that, and you have a nice time seeing them.

Yes it's her wedding, but WHY she she feeling so much hate towards her guests? Has anyone wronged her? No use in taking it out on everyone. Since money is no object, paying for food isn't such a burden is it? Maybe someone else, closer to her can reach her common sense or maybe her fiance? Otherwise, I would consider NOT going to the wedding and just sending her a gift or card (with a small check). If I'm traveling that long to get there, I've made the effort and cared enough to be there. She should make the effort and also care enough about me too!

I'm fairly sure you mean "upscale" restaurant instead of "formal"...."formal lunch" doesn't exist. This being said, the appropriate type of dress is called "business dress".....elegant and understated....and age appropriate.

You can't go wrong with a well tailored suit, pumps and understated make-up and jewelry. I would recommend a knee length skirt, not trousers, with the suit.

Most of all, have fun and enjoy the time with your family. If you know you look good and are appropriately dressed for the occasion, it won't matter what someone else might think. Chances are they won't care and will just be happy to see you!

You will be happy to find that the word "formal", and "lunch" do not go together.

You are right, a nice suit, or a nice dress, some low heels, and taste full make-up and accessories will make the look.

If you went back to the same place for supper, a cocktail dress would be appropriate.

I'd say a suit or a workwear-like dress would work. I won't say make-up should be minimal, you would still want to look like you put something on, but maybe stick to neutral or safe colours.

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Your inclination is correct.