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Family or Love??

Would you leave your current relationship if your family do not approve due to cultural differences? Who would you pick if your family asks you to choose? your lover or your family?

Keep in mind that your family had well made you aware before you got into dating stage that we as a family will not accept cultural differences if you bring one home. So then why would you still go ahead and date someone in another culture and fall in love? You well were aware of it before hand. THEN WHY? WHY? WHY?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    This is a hard topic to deal with. You have to take a look at the situation on the outside..althought it is hard to. If your family loves you( not saying they dont since they dont approve) then they should accept you for who you love. Also need to look at in the eyes of God...He would accept you for whomever you choose and that is the most important thing hopefully your family can come to terms with that. also, I'll tell you from experience different culture relationships are VERY VERY hard. So take a look at your situation, how much do you love this person? enough to give your life to? through thick and thin? And make sure that he feels the same way about you. Just remember you need to follow your heart. Also cultural differences are harder later when it comes to marriage, raising children, and family... make sure you think out your decisions...write down the positive and the negative... which direction does your heart tell you to go in? Good luck with your situation!

  • 1 decade ago

    Would I? No, I would not. Would other people? Yes, some people's traditions and cultures are much stronger and taken much more seriously. Some families expect and demand their children marry their own race, nationality, religion, etc. And getting with an "outsider" is a serious matter that can cause huge rifts in the family.

    They dated out of their culture due to curiosity and a weak sense of rebellion. They weren't strong enough to go against their family, and possibly knew the "outsider" would never be accepted or welcomed. The person who was dumped should understand that it's for the best. S/he would most likely never be considered "right".

  • 1 decade ago

    Hey i can understand. How long as the relationship being going. If you just barely know the person then stay with your family. If you been with that person for a long time then stay with that person and stick it out with you family. They will understand that your relationship is based on love and trust. They will see through the relationship and forget about the culture difference

  • Jon O
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Your family should never ask you to choose when it comes to cultural differences. But I am from the US so I cant really put myself in your shoes. It would be different if he were abusing you in some way. I'd tell my family that I love them but it is my life to do what I want with. Just love me and support me.

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  • 1 decade ago

    You can't help who you fall in love with and if your family really cares about you they should understand. You have to do what makes you happy. Think of your future; would you rather see yourself with the person you choose and be happy, then the person your parents approve of and that makes you unhappy. Take it from me be with who makes you happy. Who cares if he is from a different culture, color, race. No one can make you choose your life and your partner its the 21st century.

  • 1 decade ago

    i think that because they know that their culture is boring that's why they try another some people hate their family and go to love another and accepts there culture, and because some family are strict so some people can't change but i really think that allot of people change because they are in love with the man.

    Source(s): yeah thats me cute_girl_shantie@yahoo.com
  • 1 decade ago

    Family has nothing to do with yes they are your family but if you love enough to marry him and he can support you and u the same then go for it it doesn't matter what they think its what you are prepared to live with.

  • 1 decade ago

    How about "Family Love"

    Source(s): Just ask my sister...
  • 1 decade ago

    depends on you but i defintally recommend that u better leave your realtionship because it won't last forever but your family will be alwasys with you so i'd say family

  • JC
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    because we cannot control who it is we fall in love with.

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