Fake engagement ring?

a $30 engagement ring? that's not too cool....

my boyfriend says he has to spend atleast 1 full months pay...so maybe you should hint at your man that you read that...because it's true....

but I wouldn't stress over it, maybe the ring is really pretty and what he thought you would love?

plus, if you don't like it, just say that you appreciate his taste in jewerly but would like to help him choose the wedding rings....and maybe exchange the engagement...

Wait a minute. How do you know that's the engagement ring? Have you thought that maybe he's using it as a decoy? There are so many reasons he could have bought that ring. Maybe he's using it to throw you off. Maybe he wants to ask you, wants it to be a surprise, doesn't know what you want and just bought a ring and will have you choose your own later. Maybe he's going to stick it in a cracker jack box and doesn't want to get sugar on the real ring. Etc. Etc. Etc...

There could be so many reasons for why he bought this ring. Don't get mad until you hear his explanation. Besides, I can't believe any guy is dumb enough to think $30 is normal for an engagement ring. If he does, then you have some serious thinking to do.

That isn't fair! You should tell him how you feel. Have you not accepted gifts from him before or done anything to give him the idea that you don't care about receiving nice things? Because I don't think that he thinks you are not worth it, but I believe that he has gotten the impression that you don't care about the price of things he gets you.

Besides that, you do deserve a higher quality ring. This is forever, correct? So even if you don't mind a cheap <$30 ring, it wouldn't be wise since this usually means poor quality, so it'll end up looking horrible in a few years.

So talk to him and tell him that you would like something of a better quality (since he has the money for it). Its not like he is poor or anything.

A standard thought is that a man should use his salary as a guide to his budget when buying an engagement ring. Two months salary is the base usually used. Unless your guy sells bubble gum balls on the street corner (not that there is anything wrong with that), $30 seems a like a very low starting point for the one piece of jewelry he plans to use to ask you to be wife. You'll have to have a calm, open discussion with him about the ring to find out why he went with something so cheap. If he spends lots on himself and is willing to give you a thirty dollar ring, I would say you need to get some premarital counseling before you agree to marry him. These patterns of behavior rarely change after marriage. Issues like this need to be resolved before the wedding to avoid feelings of anger and mistrust later.

Wow...less than $30? That means the gold isn't even real. You can either talk to him about it straight out - because odds are that if he's doing this with something as important as your engagement ring then this might be a pattern that you will deal with throughout your marriage. The other option is to keep quiet and let it go or maybe drop subtle hints to him - like commenting on nice rings on tv or jewelry stores.

Either way, he is outta line in my opinion. Unless he is poor and can't afford a nice ring there is no excuse for buying a fake ring for the woman you want to marry.

Yes, you should care if its not a matter of genuine poverty and he spends the money on himself. The ring is a symbol, while it should not break the bank financially for a young couple it should be the best quality that fits into the budget. Before you jump the gun let him present the ring to you, make sure its not a joke gift , a starter ring or a lesson for you for being nosy before he gives you the real one etc. If it is the one he really wants to give you, next time the two of you are in a mall, take it to a jewler to have it appriased for insurance purposes , after all you wouldnt want anything so precious not to be on your home owners insurance. Have the jewler tell you together how much its worth. He will get the point.

Wow...that is a relationship that I would RUN from ASAP!!! Not because of the lack of a fancy ring, but for the lack of emotion and caring it seems that he is feeling towards your engagement. Although, you never know if the ring is really for you, for a family member as a gift, or a decoy to take your mind off of the fact that he might already have the ring.

WOW, I would be pissed tooo..... not because you have to have a huge rock but he could get a nice ring real gold with a real diamond for a couple hundred dollars at a place like BJ's wholesale. And like you said, he has no problem spending that money on himself. I would get the hell out NOW, it's only going to get worst. He basically saying your only worth $30 to him. I would tell him NO and find someone else to treat you like a princess!!

All the rings are less than $30? Wow.. Well, don't let it hurt you.. It's really the thought that counts and the actual meaning of the ring>he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. And that's all that matters. Besides, is there a chance maybe he's tricking you? He knows you'll check so he did it on purpose, when in fact he might have some really expensive ring already tucked and hidden away?

my question is....you know he's getting it, and "a" package came...unless he has already given you the ring...how do you know that "your" ring is even in there? you don't...it could be just a simple ring to show he cares...not an engagement ring. maybe its a ploy...you don't know...

but if he gave the ring already and you know for a fact that the ring he gave you is the same as what was in the box...RUN! he's a cheap ****!! he's stupid in the first place for having it mailed to the house where you could see it!!