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Would this be wrong? SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY!?

My cousins and his girlfriend are in the processing of getting a new place to live, and there two sons are really suffering due to this, the youngest is currently staying with a mutual family memeber and the other one (whom me and my boyfriend love so much) is moving from place to place with him and he suffers more, hes not up to the level as a regualr 3 year old, and was wondering is asking them if we could take in there son until they get on there feet, with christmas coming and all, i dont want to see him suffer even more. so my question, would it be wrong to ask them if i could take in there son for the time being? if not how to i ask her with out making it seem like shes not a good mother? I just dont want to see her son grow up living from house to house and never knowning when hes going to get a REAL meal (and not junk food)..........please help! Thanks <3!

Update:

Thanks for everyones answers!! Reading your responses helped make it easier for me to ask, and tonite I am, I arragned to have dinner wit them and hopefully if all goes well I'll be bring home Carlos.

Thanks again, and Happy Holidays!! <3

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  • ?
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    just make it look like it's to their benefit (which it will be)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    no it wouldn't be rude to ask but how you do it can come off wrong!

    don't make them look like the bad guy they will get defensive!

    just say hey I want to try this parenting thing can i have your son for a while! if you have kids then try saying i am trying to teach my kid displen and they need to realize that the world dont turn for them! so can i have your kid to show my kid that the world don't relove around them and get the jelousy thing out of the way now!

    or just say hey when do you plan on getting on your feet? wait for answer...

    okay can i be a perment baby sitter for little joey! I would love to do this again or for the first time! :)

    Good luck

    Nice deeds will not go unnoticed!

  • SHERRI
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    No, asking would not be wrong, just be careful how you approach it. Maybe say something like "I know how much you love "Jimmy" and can see that you're having a tough time right now. What if "Joe and I take him in until you all get back on your feet?" or maybe if it's feasible for you, you could offer to take in the whole family until things are better for them.

  • 1 decade ago

    I don't think it'd be wrong; you'd just have to go about it carefully. It might be easier to phrase it as an offer--"If you ever need it, I'm willing to take in your son for a while" or something of that nature. Then you're not expressing your want to fix a problem as much as you are offering assistance during a hard time.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Oh no it wouldn't be wrong at all. I would just say something like, "I know that things are hard for you right now, and I would be willing to take care of your son until you can get back on your feet."

    I'm sure they love their son very much, and knowing that he would be with you full time would be a load off their minds.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    ask them the question like this: "I've realized that you and your husband are having a tough time this holiday season. To help things ease by a little more would it be all right if we could help you out and take ________ (the boy's name) for a couple of weeks to spend time with us while you get yourselves situated. We would really appreciate it and we love ________ so much!!" see what she says. i think it would work

  • 1 decade ago

    I think they would probably appreciate someone stepping in to help while they are struggling. The thing is, you'd have to offer to take in both, not just the three year old. Brothers should stay together anyway and it would be better for them.

  • 1 decade ago

    just ask them...say to her...if you guys need some help with (the boy) I would be willing to take him for a while until you guys get settled if you like...

    It might be a relief to them to have someone help them out.

    But truly, you are only going to get more attached to the child, and be hurt when they want to take him back.

    Also, you have to think of the child.

    Most children WANT to be with their parents, and he will miss them.

    Offer to help them out by letting them know you care about them and the child, it wouldnt be offensive to offer your help.

  • 1 decade ago

    maybe in a casual conversation you can kind of bring it up as a joke. ou could say man it looks like you got so much going on with moving why don't you let .... come stay with us we would love to have a kid in the house. See how they respond.

  • .
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Just tell her that your concerned about hter son and that you would like to keep him for a while until she and her boyfriend get settled into their new place.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    It wouldn't be wrong at all just explain to her that you want the best for their son... tell them everything you just wrote down.

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