If a beautiful married woman isn't happy with her sex life , is the guy she chooses also wrong ?

sex has nothing to do with physical attributes , more emotional. So if she's not happy with her sex life , then the guy is not emotionally fullfilling her life. So then yes the guy is wrong for her based on that .

I know a LOOOOT of people will be jumping at the chance to defend non-virgin women...saying things like "there's nothing wrong with marrying a non-virgin woman", which of course I'm not saying there is! But people these days are so focused on defending non-virgin women that they end up trashing the virgins (by saying things like "they're not experienced enough", or "they must be too uglyy!" etc etc). Anyway honestly all I can say to you is that life isnt black & white, people arent all good or all evil, no one's a complete winner or a complete loser (you win some, you lose some). So i guess those who marry non-virgins are winners in a way that they get to skip a level and enjoy more of the fun side of sex. While those who marry virgins enjoy more of the 'values' side of sex (and then later enjoy the fun side, when they both become more experienced). Edit: OH i had to ask.....the guys who said they wanted to marry virgin women, are they virgin men as well? Cuz then we'd have to go back and answer "can hypocrites EVER have a chance at winning?" :) I'm a virgin, I do have values and I know what I want in life. But everyone has their own lifestyle and everyone wants different things in life. We shouldnt judge someone for not choosing our lifestyle.

buddy, i'm in almost exactly the same situation right now, but she's not married, she's just very involved.

I do not feel wrong about it, She's the one with the power to say "no, i'm not going to do this to my significant other" before it goes to that point.

also, i do believe a distinction should be made between sex and love. sex is a primal physical need, love is something much more sacred then that.

No,

they can work with sex- there are many books that you can read about this topic that will help your performance in bed, a lot claim to good in bed but in reality they are also striving to have one, so don't worry- it takes time to learn that art of expressing love.

Ooh. That's tough because despite how much you love someone, having a bad lover = the pits :( But, it may not mean he's the wrong but I think that he (and maybe she, too) has some learning and teaching to do.

I wouldnt say that you didnt find the right guy the question is are you sure your what he wants? not saying that you wouldnt be just a question to ask one self,cuz if he isnt in to you then i can imageing that sex is kinda well lame.. but if its just the sex you need to talk with him and ask what he like and what he want you to do and visa versa you tell him what you need ...

Not necessarily, you have to tell the guy what you like, they are not mind readers. Communication is the answer to most marital problems

As long as the husband KNOWS what is going on, than its all good. but if she isn't being honest with her husband and the guy knows that she isn't - than your BOTH in the wrong!

No, they just need to focus more and work on their sex life.

YES, THEY ARE BOTH WRONG. IF SHE NOT HAPPY AT HOME

THEN SHE NEED TO GET OUT OF THE HOME OR TRY TO

WORK IT OUT. BUT YOU ARE JUST AS BAD. BECAUSE SHE

USING YOU FOR WHAT SHE CANT GET AT HOME. BUT WILL

NOT LEAVE THE HOME FOR YOU.